Dwindling self esteem

If your self esteem Is Dwindling Skully, then 1. Glad you typed this post. 2. stumbled upon this place...and 3. thought it-be a decent place to get a little help (or whatever)

The fact that you pulled yourself out of depression back in October, is comendable.

self esteem works the same way, you have to pull yourself up, in a sense. You do have an idea of what it's gonna take because you told us...

If your "friends" treat you this way...and it's to the point of being scared of the consequences of "moving on."well, that's grounds to leave.period.

Elementary school is a LONG time ago...regardless of where you are in life. If a highschooler wrote in it'd still be awhile back-no offense.

You are more valuable than how they're speaking and treating you. Of course, this didn't happen over night. Obviously it doesnt bother them, cuz they're doing it...so, you've Let them do this...even if its been a progression. We sometimes have no idea how to get off the roller coaster we got on...especially if there's no sign of it stopping any time soon.

Who we associate with says alot about ourselves in default. You don't owe them any explanation for wanting better for yourself, especially in due to their treatment of you.

Okay. You know this but like a coach you gotta give yourself nicer pep talks...

Get in that mirror and speak kind to yourself. Hollar if you got to, but just do itnin a positive manner.

ask yourself, why would being alone be worse than them treating you like this.??

Cut ties.
Learn to like yourself.
Take an inventory of your thougts and replace the mean dialogue you have about yourself with good.

Imo, you've believed what they said somehow...now your seeing a light at the end of the tunnel and want permission to run to the end without them.

Permission granted.

You know what to do. You got this!!

A strong person who I admire...and made it through their hard times said...do it scared

Sounds like a painful place you are in. Of course, there is always an alternative way of doing things...as well as looking at things. I want to offer this: "We train other how to treat us". Yes, that sounds harsh, however, it is also true. It sounds like you don't like the way they treat you, but the truth is, if we do not set our own personal boundaries, others will set them for us according to their preference.

If you are the "Doing something about it" kind, and really want to be treated with respect, then here is an idea:

Make a column down the centre of a piece of paper. On the left side, write all the ways these people treat you that you do not like. On the other side, write the contrast to each one, of how you want to be treated. Then, ask yourself what kind of boundaries would you would have to learn and implement to support them to either treat you the way you consider respectful, or, if not, learning how to let them go. Consider that being along with self respect and self love is better than allowing others to treat you a way that hurts. Truth is, if you learn to love and respect yourself, it will rub off onto others, and you will attract different people as friends, who care about you enough to treat you in a way you consider respectful.

Thing is, it starts with you, your own willingness to stand up for your own happiness! It can be done! It really can!.. I suggest going to the book store and buying a book or two on healthy boundaries. This will give you a good start.

I like the book: "Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend. And with regards to the challenges with how you feel inside with this, I highly recommend "Living With Joy" Sanaya Roman.

I hope this letter meets you well,
Arne Pedersen