considering the extreme such as starving my self

Dont live your life worring about what you look like. Who are you trying to impress with image?. As long as your healthy thats the main thing. Your husband loves you the way you are, your family love you the way you are, your friends love you the way you are. Size 13 is not fat. Dont be selfish to yourself and others. There is no logical reason for needing to starve yourself.
Its pathetic.

Start reading up on how living on raw foods helps our bodies reach it's healthy potential. I totally encourage everyone to look into this.

Watch the quality of your food. The prevalence of processed foods, which is junk, is a major cause of our obesity epidemic.

Also, consider "fasting" and know the safe way to break a fast, which is another topic to study. Because of the way our society has been taught to "eat, eat, eat, never go without eating!", one has to be firm in our own mind that this (fasting) is the right thing to do for ourselves.

Learn to be true to yourself, and do what you think is right for you. Your husband does not own your body. I know it is difficult, as we are by nature influenced by those around us.

I, too, do not like being overweight. It's fun and feels breezy (light on my feet) to be skinny. Just beware of not going too far.

P.S. Diet pills are not needed, and may be detrimental to your health. You may try something like spirulina tablets. These are a natural way to curb appetite. Or drink water or tea when you feel a "hunger pang".

Ah! Please don't starve yourself or take any diet pills! I know it sounds simple and easy, but it's not. I'm 13 and have considered the 'Don't Eat' path of losig weight, but then I saw the girls at school who looked so frail and unhealthy. Apparently, they were trying to lose weight for the cheerleading team.

Just try to go the normal route for losing weight. Eat healthy and excercise. That's practically all you need! Best wishes!!!

Starving yourself will only make things worse, encourage you to close yourself off, change your attitude, etc. The best thing to do is add in time each day, be it before work, at lunch, after work, to go for a short walk. That's it. You'll enjoy it, get some exercise, and feel more energized. Soon you'll realize you do have time in the day, even with children, a husband and work, to focus on your needs too. Hope this helps!

Hey! People say they love you the way you are, so you shouldn't worry. If it really bothers you that much, do a healthy diet. DON'T STARVE! I did that when I was 10 years old(i'm 16 now), and it's affecting me now. If you do it, you'll develop an eating disorder!
It's like torture.

i am 24 years old i have been married to my husband for 4 years but altogether we have been with each other 8years now...i used to be in a size 7 when i met him i was comfortable with it well then i started working full time not time to get anything done its constant work for both of us and as you can imagine i did gain some weight i am currently in a size 13 not happy with it but my husband always tells me i am beautiful and he loves me the way i am and all my friends and family do the same! i cant stand it its like no matter what they says i am still not happy with the way i look!!! well my husband wont let me take diet pills or diet so there for i am ready to freaking starve my self its driving me effin crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry to hear how distressed you are about your situation. Sounds like you have stress issues with not having enough time to relax ('its constant work for both of us'). Sometimes we use food as comfort or to calm us in times of stress. It's very easy to get into a situation where we begin to do this on a regular basis. Finding time to relax now and again would help to combat this.

Please don't take diet pills, the side effects are frightening and can be downright dangerous. As for starving yourself - not a good idea. This can lead to you becoming so hungry that you end up becoming so hungry that you end up bingeing and eating more than you would have done if you had not starved.

Rose

jennylou21 wrote:i am 24 years old i have been married to my husband for 4 years but altogether we have been with each other 8years now...i used to be in a size 7 when i met him i was comfortable with it well then i started working full time not time to get anything done its constant work for both of us and as you can imagine i did gain some weight i am currently in a size 13 not happy with it but my husband always tells me i am beautiful and he loves me the way i am and all my friends and family do the same! i cant stand it its like no matter what they says i am still not happy with the way i look!!! well my husband wont let me take diet pills or diet so there for i am ready to freaking starve my self its driving me effin crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!

Aside from "feeling like a fatass" and not liking the way you look are you having any health problems?

When you starve yourself, your body thinks it is going to die so it holds onto any calories that you may consume (through liquid or "weak" moments) That is no way to lose weight.

It is so much easier to eat a meal a day of healthy food (rice and veggies) and do whatever exercise you can.

If your stomach is growling and you feel hungry, eat! quickly before your body goes into starvation mode (can be as little as 8 hours after the last meal) As soon as your body thinks you're trying to kill it, your fat will be kept exactly where it is as fuel reserves as muscle is easier for the body to break down (if it's not being used)

Also studies on POW's that suffered PROPER starvation, found that what little body weight they had left was mainly fat and almost no muscle. This includes your heart!

Actually starving yourself is part of the way to do it.
When you first cut down your food intake, starving is what it will feel like.
Enjoy your stomach rumblings -- your burning fat !!
Get addicted to that feeling!!
Starve yourself thin !!!

Here's the good news though. Eating sensibly, (hat is, you are not really going to starve yourself) you are simply eating a whole lot LESS.

1. Cut Out -- Bread, Margarine (and use butter in future), and Potatoes.

2. Eat whatever else you like. Cakes, Doughnuts, Potato Chips (cheap brand just potato and veg oil, but not too often), kebebs, pizza, candy bars, sugar -- no worries. Enjoy ! (don't forget to eat some fruit & veg)

3. Remember you are cutting down, starve as much a s possible, do not eat any foods listed in rule 1, and then eat a whole kebab ++ the pizza if you like

Trust me it works.
(I'm a formerly 16 stone, now consistently 11 stone-ish, Male with weight problems in the past)

Remember, NO Bread, NO Potatoes, NO Margarine !

Cheese, Milk, Suagr, it's all ok.
Just remember to Starve occassionally, and get addicted to getting THIN .

h I almost forgot.
Eating after drinking alcohol -- the body does not burn the fat before it has coped with the booze. Alcohol calories ++ food calories == not good.
Fizzy drinks. The worst offender. Avoid.