Hi. I'm so grateful this board exists.
I ask the question because relying on her makes me angry, and get in fights with her.
I've always had this desperate need to rely on my mother since i was tiny. First off I have a detachment disorder from being separated from my birth mother, secondly my adopted mother has a lot of issues, and isn't mentally fit I dont think, she's extremely neglectful and unreliable. Those are the key words. Dad is just plain not around or concerned. Then the family would gang up on me because i hated the deplorable conditions i lived in.
Here's the thing, sometimes she does have genuinely supportive things to say. Then other times she will leave you in the dust. Totally.
Why do i keep going back to her? How do i stop doing this? How do i completely cut her off and only rely on myself? So when i feel helpless, and uncertain, because my situation (being far from any jobs) I can find a solution?
I am going to start a little business alongside my sister. I just really feel lonely where i am, there is no one here. When i was younger it was so much easier to make friends.
Please help?