by overexposed » Fri Jan 11, 2013 1:53 pm
All eating disorders affect people emotionally, let's put it this way, she starts seeing everything in black and white, it's either too good or too bad and mostly it's too bad and that's because of malnutrition, it magnifies the bad stuff and focuses on them too.
Thinking about it alone is emotionally draining, you're fat you starve yourself to lose weight but then you get so hungry and you're craving so you go eat up all food the comes your way and then you feel guilty and purge, imagine how you would be feeling after all that... it's so tough and emotionally damaging, let alone a history of abuse.
I'm guessing she found it hard to trust you, people have been previously abused sometimes feel like it's going to happen again and again and that's why they might be looking for signs that someone else is going to abuse them so that they can avoid it, it's a bit extreme, but who wants to be abused again? it's a no brainer that she's insecure and too self-conscious and that's justified considering her eating disorder...
The thing is, there is nothing in the world that you could have ever done to help her unless she wanted to help herself, eating disordered people are usually smart enough to fool even themselves so there's really nothing to do about it, I think you need to just move on.