by KellyL » Sun Mar 20, 2011 11:18 pm
[quote="jardine199"]I am a 17 year old boy in my 2nd last year of secondary school. I have had a fear of public speaking for about 3 years now and i am sick of how stupid it is, yet it is controlling so many aspects of my life! . . .
Jardine199,
First off, chill. You're young and have lots of time to deal with this. Know this though--your fear of public speaking will never entirely go away. So don't try to fight it back or spend money on pricey programs that promise to "eliminate all fear" because it won't happen (you'll be tempted to do this later if your career path requires public speaking).
The good news is that fear can work to your advantage. Believe it or not, a speaker with no nervous energy would appear boring and uninteresting. The best speakers, just like any performer, have learned to utilize anxiety to their advantage by channeling it into what they do.
Take advantage now to prepare and practice. Create a simple two or three point version of your speech and do it in front of a video camera. Then watch yourself. Pay attention to what both looks and sounds good, figure out how it can be made better, then try again. This kind of feedback is invaluable. If you can, do the speech in front of friends or family and then ask them what worked and what didn't. Often what we think looks or sounds a certain way is far different from the perspective of an audience member.
Prepare your notes using just key or "trigger" words. *Never write a speech out word for word or try to memorize it. Rather, use the key words to remind you of what to say and then just speak from your heart. Your audience does not know your speech and won't know you made a mistake unless you tell them. And back your points with stories. They're easy to retell and audiences love stories--gives you instant credibility.
Use your voice. Speak loudly but without shouting. Speak louder than you would one on one. This gives you authority and confidence. Don't rush--don't be afraid to pause and collect your next thought. Pausing actually make you look very confident.
Use your eyes. Don't stare at the ceiling or the floor, and don't try to imagine everyone in their underwear--that doesn't work. Instead, look people in the eye randomly for 3 to 5 seconds. This can take practice. Again, use your family and friends. This technique alone will make you look like a professional speaker.
Right beforehand, stretch your mouth and tongue. Warm up your voice by humming from your lowest to your highest a few times. Drink lots of water, but no dairy or sugar. Then breath deep, hold your chin high, and walk to the mic with confidence. When you get there, don't apologize and don't say "I'm scared." Just smile and jump right into it.
If you follow these steps you'll feel more in control of the fear instead of the other way around. The bottom line though is that the more you do it the better you'll get at it.
You'll be fine.
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