Hello,
I am married to a beautiful girl for about 4 months. The reason I am writing here is that I feel she has a huge ego that I find very troubling to manage. I am trying and want to make the marriage work.
But often I am left to feel that she doesn't care or have regards for my feelings. I am from India, and this was an arranged marriage. She is a very respectable girl, same age as my age (35years), financially independent. I have been a good husband, but I feel it doesn't matter.
Recently I asked for a photo(decent) of her on whatsapp, I got it only after 12 hours and infinite begging. This phenomenon applies to all fields. I feel humiliated, insulted and very hurt. Sometimes I wish to get back at her. I feel frustrated being a husband who has to literally demand respect. I want it to STOP.
We are married 4 months now....While making love I want to see her, but she will insist on keeping it dark. We only get to be together from 11 pm to 6 am. She will always deny me during the morning....remember its been 4 months. I accepted all of it.
I don't like condoms, but she wants it in condoms only. I mentioned birth control that people generally resort to here. She didn't even care. Its been condoms ever since.
I don't get to know when she leaves work, even after mentioning it subtly that I would like to be told.
There is this "family locator app" (on my parents', sister's and my mobile phone) that all in my family uses, I invited her to join the app and be a part of our family group. She turned the request down citing that its against her values and sense of freedom. And told, if I wanted to know where she was, I can call her as times as I want. I let it go, though felt hurt. [It bothers me being denied by my wife.] And then there has been more than once when she didn't return my calls, when I really needed to talk [reason....she is a teacher and turns her phn silent. And she regularly forgets to switch the ringer back.]
Now she went to visit her parents and brother, and has already been 6 days there. I asked for a photo, and she messaged all BS but the pic. And that stood out in my view as an act of denying me.
I am decent in bed, sex is Ok though not exceptional. I believe she is the faithful type.
Please pour in your thoughts. I need every perspective I can get.