Why am I so nasty

Andrew Macaskill wrote:Every day people wake up and have nice days together.

Not me. Every day it seems I have a problem with my mum we wake up and everything's fine but in hours we start at each other loseing our temper and we spend the entire day saying l hate you and l want nothing to do with you it's finished

What I want to know is why am l so nasty why do I have a agressive gene in me is it because of my father or did life or God give me this.

Whatever it is l don't want it l don't want to be an a**hole
I'm applying for the army they said that you change become more confident and calm

So why the F** am I still a b**** to my. mum

HELP ME WITH THIS . PLEASE

Dear Andrew,

I was in the Army. Yes, in the Army you do not moan and complain and give everyone a hard time BECAUSE you would be afraid to -- if you were a Serious Pain for the other Soldiers to put up with, they would Beat you Up and you would be sleeping in the Dumpsters, and you know it. Everyone knows it. People Behave Better In the Army Because They Are Afraid Not To. It is Not the Sergeants and the Officers that Keep the Men In Line -- it is the Other Men.

But with poor little old Mum, there is nothing to be afraid of. You can Say or Do anything to Her, can't you? You are not a Big Man, but you are bigger than she is, aren't you? If some Uncle, a Brother of hers, was living with you, and he was Six Foot 3 and 240 lbs, well I bet you would be as sweet as a little Pussy Cat, wouldn't you?

Anyway, If you want some advice, then here is some advice -- if you don't like your behavior, then STOP IT. Grow some Will Power. Read some Anger Management Books. I know you know how to Read... the Army doesn't take Illiterates.

I also believe your Army Career may be troubled from the Start. The Army works better for Some People. You can't get Blood from a Stone. the Army can take a Good Man and Make him Better. But the Army can only do so much with snivelers, whiners and criers. If you are to Make It in the Army you better Change for the Better NOW. Assert some Self Discipline over yourself Now. Toughen Up Now. Once you are in the Army, and you get on the Wrong Side of the Wrong Person, and they See you as a Walking Talking Catastrophe Ready to Happen.... you know, in the Army Lives Depend on Everybody Being Able to Pull Their Share... YOU Have to Be Clearly Dependable. You might find yourself On the Bus Home even before you realize What Happened. The Army Needs Men but it doesn't need More Problems.

If you want a good author for Anger Management Books, try Ronald Potter-Efron. You can get the book online. He wrote more than a few books, so read the Reviews and pick the ones that you think you would like.

If you decide to Man Up, then good luck and best wishes.

Depending on how old you are... I'd say this isn't a bad concern.

My mum and I have poor chemistry and poor interactions, simply because of the past we've shared. That, in turn, is the result of the people we are. She and I are both aggressive and single-minded, often focused bitterly on ourselves.

The fact that you're concerned is good. If your mother is open to talking, ask if she could sit down and have an honest conversation with you about this. I suggest that during this conversation, you keep calm throughout, keep a low and open tone, and keep your mind open to her ideas and what she says. If she is the type of person to get angry at "accusations" or an implication that she is at fault, then this will help tremendously. It did with my mother, who is the most easily angered and one-track mind woman I have ever had the pleasure of knowing.

Be honest, but not brutally so unless necessary. But be blunt, convey your concerns, and let her know that you care that you have been "nasty", as you say. It takes two people to maintain this sort of poor relationship, and it will take two people to break it and build it up into something better.

Speak with your mother. Silence is the killer, here.

After honest conversations with my mother, and forcing even my insane temper to cool down and to listen to what she has to say, we have had good moments. I find that when the other party sees that you're more willing to speak openly, to hear them out, and to compromise, they will also settle down considerably and value your opinion more. We (my mum and I) still fight often, but I've found that honesty has led me to having more things that I enjoy in our interactions. Whereas, months ago, all I could do was to hate her.

Much luck to you.

Andrew Macaskill wrote:Every day people wake up and have nice days together.

Not me. Every day it seems I have a problem with my mum we wake up and everything's fine but in hours we start at each other loseing our temper and we spend the entire day saying l hate you and l want nothing to do with you it's finished

What I want to know is why am l so nasty why do I have a agressive gene in me is it because of my father or did life or God give me this.

Whatever it is l don't want it l don't want to be an a**hole
I'm applying for the army they said that you change become more confident and calm

So why the F** am I still a b**** to my. mum

HELP ME WITH THIS . PLEASE

Oh, Sometimes it's funny to quarrel with our parents. Actually, I also do quarrel with my mom too and I enjoy it. But your case is totally different. I think you have some mental problem. You should meet with a consultant first.