To start, my wife and I have been together for nearly 8 years and married for the past 2.5 years. Our relationship has had ups and downs, lately the downs have been more prevalent that the ups. Our son was stillborn in July and we have not recovered from that.
Our relationship has taken a significant toll due to the child loss and in January i told her that we should end our marriage and that the resentment was too much. She had left a job to move to be with me and resents me and my career for not doing the same. She asked me to stay and promised that things would change, they have not.
We again find ourselves expecting another child and it pains me to say; but i don't know if our marriage is strong enough to endure raising a child together. That's not to say i will not be an active participant in the child's life, but I don't think it is conducive to bring a child into a marriage that has so much animosity and resentment.
She hates my job and how much I make, so I had applied and am nearing a start date with another agency that pays better and is in an area where her job has more opportunity. Unfortunately, the hiring process for my line of work is lengthy and hard to come by.
The same fight that always happens happened again, she resents being in the town we are because her career is more important than what I make and continues to tell me to grow up and get a better job. Berating how much I make and that I should bring in more. She has since left her job due to pregnancy complications and is considered a higher risk pregnancy and is now asking me to make more, which i will upon my transfer to the new agency.
I am already working 60+ hours a week to make up for her spending and now unemployment and am still hearing it is not enough and being compared to her rich friends that have husbands in real estate development.
I just don't know how much more I can take. I do love her, but I hate myself for how our relationship has become so negative. I do not want to bring a child into this environment, but I do not want to miss out on being a good father because our marriage isn't working.