Hi everyone, i hope you can help me with a dilemma i'm having, i'm getting married in like 15 days and this wedding craziness, and payments and getting the things done is taking a toll from us all but mostly for my fiancée, she never has been a particularly strong woman i must say and she has a very short temper, i believe it has something to do with her father being a alcoholic most part of her childhood,(he has been sober for 20 years kow thanks A.A) but i'm getting really worried about it since yesterday.
She and him got into a huge fight over the color of our wedding cake (i really don't care about it as long as is tasty) but i believe this has something to do with the pressure we are having in conjunction with the relationship with her father, even doe i talked to her and she recognized that the fight was stupid she refuses to call him and ask for an apology, she says her heart beats like a pump just by hearing his voice, i talked to him today and he is very sad to but they won talk, i feel that there is nothing i can do about it, i told my future wife she needs to snap out of it now she knows were those emotions come but she refuses, i can't help her if she refuses to help herself i can't change her mood, i can't do other thing than listen to her and help her to realize whats happening but i when i talk to her is like talking to a wall, she understands but stays the same.
I don't know in my case every time i'm worried or depressed i talk to myself and work it out once i discover the origin of my feelings, but really i don't know how to help her or even if i can do it, she and her dad will never be into a psychologist like ever my fiancée hates talking to herself and digging into her feelings and whats inside her, and as far as i know digging inside oneself no matter how awful your inside may be is the only way to get over things being myself a sex abuse recovered victim i can't comprehend how people live their lives without talking to themselves.
Well i'm rambling too much, what i really want to know is how can i help her to learn to lose the fear for whats inside her and come to terms with what she feels and repair her relationship with her father because i know that will be a problem for our coming marriage, please help me.