My husband exhibits passive, aggressive (?) behavior. About a year ago I found bruses on the side of my stomach and other times on my arms. I became suspicious because I didn't recall hitting anything and the bruises seemed to increasingly hurt.
I later on more than one occasion lay still and my husband assumed I was asleep. He punched me on the side of my stomach where I had been getting the bruises. I didn't want to believe it so made a comment about the bruses but didn't accuse him. Another time he assumed I was asleep and he took his fingers and pinched me leaving a scare on my arm. I believe this happened twice.
He lacks confidence and according to him his mother was very abusive when they were younger. There are a lot of family issues for him. His sister doesn't speak to his mom and blames her for some fairly recent devastating things that happened in their family. After an argument he recently hid one of the phones while leaving off the hook so I couldn't use it. He then erased a phone message intended for both of us with information he didn't want me to hear. I am afraid of him and what he may do. Two days ago my brakes wouldn't work and it terrified me. He was recently working on the car and was the last one to drive it. I got the brakes going again but this was a real scare since mechanics are not easily found along the streets in gas stations. I'm not sure he did anything but I'm worried. There have been other things here and there. Is this some type of behavior that warrants immediate attention?