Hi,
im not really sure whether anyone can help but i just feel like i need to just write this all out as i cant really tell anyone..
after my daughter was born i was really unhappy with how i looked, i so wanted to be thin as i was before i was pregnant. i suffered quite bad and ugly stretch marks and saggy skin, i thought these would disappear after i toned up and lost the weight. after about a year and half i got down to my normal size 10 but the saggy skin ans stretch marks were still there. so i started taking herbal teas (feiyan) that would basically make me go to the toilet alot. i used to get quite bad cramps with it and soon realised that if i ate less then the pain wasnt so bad as there wasnt so much to get rid of. i stopped taking the teas and quickly realised that i was having trouble in the toilet dept, i went to my doctor and he prescribed my some natural laxatives. i didnt think these were working quickly enough so i swapped to stronger over the counter ones.
i take laxatives every day and if i run out i panic and am consumed by the thought of whatever food i have eaten i wont be able to get rid of.
because the laxative only work in the mornings i now only eat one small meal a day in the evenings with my daughter, then by the morning that food is gotten rid of. i am so used to not eating during the day that i dont even feel hungry anymore. my energy levels are suffering and ive comtemplated taking energy pills. im not naive, i know what im doing isnt right and i should know better being a mother, i should be setting an example. but i cannot stop, the thought of eating a meal and not taking my laxs feel me with fear.
i have been to see my doctor as after my last appt he requested i went back and i am weighed and have to keep a food journal, but i lie...
lately things have been worse as me and my bf have split ( i have another post in the depression forum about that lol)
i feel like im stuck in a vicious circle, i know what im doing is damaging me but i dont think i can stop, im so scared of putting on any weight and when i do eat i absolutely hate the bloated, uncomfortable feeling it makes me want to cry.
i know i should be honest with the doctor but im so scared he will think im a bad mum, i.e.; if i cant look after myself how can i look after a child? but i make damn sure im a good mum, shes the only thing that keep me going some days and always come first.
i would really appreciate some advice