Know it all ticks me off

Recognise that whatever people say is not personal to you, it is a projection of what they feel inside about themselves.

Accept that they are trying their best and use the information that they give you, about their own subconscious, to help them to find more happiness.

I recognize this feeling. People often make flat statements, and deliver it in such a judgmental tone as if theirs was the final word spoken. Once you realize that such people are inwardly afraid of being evaluated/critiqued about their opinions, you will simply smile and shrug off the opinion and remain indifferent. After being so fobbed off for a couple of times, such people usually stop being a nuisance.

Recognize your self first. what is the problem with me?

So what can I do to better control my emotions?

NLP based anchors provide a fairly straightforward way to change your emotional state.

They are a quick fix solution. Enough for the kind of emotions that come up when you get angry that someone tries to guess your emotional state.

A more long term solution is meditation and building self awareness.

Note: I am not talking about hypnosis, I mean just people out there. =)

Of course, because there no such thing as hypnosis. Especially when the other person has no pocket watch.

Yeah,I know the feeling. Here is a couple of questions to ask the next one:
"Oh,yeah,on what evidence do base that on?" or "How do you arrive at that conclusion?"
Here is a good one for emails: "As much as I'd like to accommodate you,I'm afraid I've
got into such a habit of judging my own behavior,I couldn't possibly burden you with that
task." And,"Can you really read minds?" Reveal their own stupidity!

If you are emotional, you are turning all of the people says around you into negative. That's why misunderstanding build. I suggest that you must always think positive, expand your patience and take a deep understanding of all the things that may happen.

jichoi wrote:Hey, whenever someone tells me how I am feeling, it really ticks me off, they seem to speak as if everything they say is completely right and there is no other possibility, and especially about how I myself feel. Its crazy!

Now, I know I can't change how others really think. So what can I do to better control my emotions?

The first thing to recognise is that these people want to get you angry. They are playing games. People in our society love to play games like this, love to tease and provoke, and they do it with a look of wide-eyed-innocence that makes it difficult, or impossible, to detect what they're up to, much less deliver an accusation --- actually, even an accusation would give them a kick as it suggests that they have hit their target. They will even often say, "I was only trying to help" and that makes it even harder to see what they are up to, or to believe that they have deliberately tried to provoke you --- just for the fun of seeing you get angry. So the last thing you want to do is to show any response at all. If you don't respond, they don't get the satisfaction. For yourself, you need to learn to not give a damn and you do that by using the mantra "I don't care" whenever it happens and whenever you feel the anger, or even whenever you think about it. I know you won't FEEL as if you don't care, but recite that mantra often enough and after a while you will find that you do not care any more and that you do not get angry any more.

Fackeffaced wrote:If you are emotional, you are turning all of the people says around you into negative. That's why misunderstanding build. I suggest that you must always think positive, expand your patience and take a deep understanding of all the things that may happen.

This is nonsense, and dangerous nonsense at that. This is a recipe for generating anger, even if it is supressed in the subconscious, and it will eventually grow to the level where it causes illness, either mental or physical. The first thing you MUST do with people who t3ell you they experience anger is to recognise that there is cause, that is IS justified. It is not just some arbitrary thing, a personality thing, and worse, it is NOT their fault as your post comes close to suggesting: you are as good as blaming the angry person for being too negative, telling them that it is their lack of a positive attitude that is their problem. This is what will generate more anger.

Caring and loving more dissolves anger.

Many people are just trying to help you find answers for yourself!! best of luck

JuliusFawcett wrote:Caring and loving more dissolves anger.

You sound like a machine: just do a bit of re-programming and hey, presto!, you've switched on the "loving and caring". Not that easy, I'm afraid.

It is only easy if you choose to believe that it is easy. Your thoughts are tools, you were not born with them, you can choose them one by one. You don't have to believe me, try sprinkling your sentences with the word "love", you could do this hundreds of times a day, see what happens.

JuliusFawcett wrote:It is only easy if you choose to believe that it is easy. Your thoughts are tools, you were not born with them, you can choose them one by one. You don't have to believe me, try sprinkling your sentences with the word "love", you could do this hundreds of times a day, see what happens.

Tried it. Had to stop because it was damaging my mind. It was quite a while ago so I can't remember precisely what was going wrong. But the point is that you can't do that sort of thing without getting into trouble, without causing dangerous side effects. It does, however, require a very high degree of self-awareness, and the ability to interpret dreams, in order to see what is going on. I would just say this: your mind is not like a car or a computer. It is much more like a living thing and must be treated as such. So, for example, The mind is not like a car where the faulty component is pulled out and replaced with a new one, or to which new, updated parts can be added. The mind is more like a plant --- if you feed it the wrong stuff or don't provide it with the right growing conditions, it dies. What you are doing reminds me of the kind of thing that produced Mad Cow Disease: they were feeding the cows the remains from abattoirs and after a while the cows went mad.

Love is the healing force. Using loving words, caring words, kind words, peaceful words is like feeding the plant like brain with wonderful food and it makes life bloom with beautiful abundance.

You are not your thoughts (although many people identify with them) our thoughts do create feelings in our body, loving thoughts release serotonin that gives us a good feeling. We are the awareness that notices these changing feelings. We can choose every thought. We can choose wonderful thoughts.