Hi,
i have been with my boyfriend for a year and have always known he has had this problem as it ruined his previous relationships, and we have discussed it at length on numerous occasions and i have seen it a few times but where as before, i could walk away from it, we now live together, it wont go away and if we have any future together it has to be sorted!!
He is the most honest caring and trustworthy guy i have ever met but, he looses his temper at the drop of a hat!! and he knows it! for example, when he flat shared with two guys, he came home and the kitchen was a mess and instead of moaning at them when they got home, he just smashed all the washing up in the kitchen! It puts me on edge as i can never anticipate when it will happen! please can i stress that he has never laid a finger on me and his anger has never been directed at me however, Im am trying to over compensate by making him happy,ie, always cooking dinner or doing the shopping and im starting to get a bit resentful of this and know that i cant make the situation better, he is desparete to sort this problem as it has already ruined two relationships and also effects his work life but he is scared but also knows that if he doesnt sort it, he will grow old a very lonely man!!
anu ideas????