Fear of public speaking ruling my life.

**Posts:** 2 · by **Donna Liesel** » Sun Nov 06, 2011 10:35 pm

Just a question, Have anyone ever heard of the CTRN Phobeia Clinic and if anyone tried it did it work for them. Will really like to know. Thank You

**Posts:** 2 · by **Donna Liesel** » Sun Nov 06, 2011 10:37 pm

confidencecoaching wrote:Hi all,

I just wanted to say that I lso used to suffer from an absolutely life crippling fear of public speaking. I would call off sick from work if I thought I may have to speak or just leave a room if I thought I might have to introduce myself for a few moments. I love public speaking now.

If I can get over it anyone can!!

Would like to know what you did to overcome your fear? Please tell.

**Posts:** 2 · by **confidencecoaching** » Mon Nov 07, 2011 10:47 pm

Hi Donna,

public speaking absolutely terrified me. My advice to you would be to take ot a book on NLP. Its not going to be the full answer but its a great start to getting you moving towards where you want to be.

I just studied and studied and did some more studying around different methods and NLP was a great start.

The sad fact is that when people are afraid of public speaking they pretty do everything they shouldn't. Shallow, fast breathing, to increase your heart rate, dwelling on the speech and imagining yourself feeling nervous and scared (disempowers you even more) You pretty much to so many things to make yourself worse and worse.

You need to understand the things you do wrong and stop them. You then need to replace them with the things that empower you.

It might sound simplistic but it is. The reason you have this fear in the first place is simply a primal instinct. Your brain is recognising public speaking as something that makes you uncomfortable.

Your subconcious mind want you to avoid anything that makes you uncomfortable. Millions of years ago it was rival tribesman and wild animals that made us feel uncomfortable.

The elevated pulse, the adrenaline hit etc was fantastic for this.

In a sense you need to reassure your brain that this might be something that whilst this might make you uncomfortable it isn't something that will kill you.

Rewire your mind to undersand this and instead of anxiety you have confidence when speaking.

Sorry if that was a little preachy but its a subject I am very passionate about and know what it feels like

**Posts:** 6 · by **kenpo** » Wed Nov 23, 2011 3:22 pm

HI Jardine199..
you may be still searching for a while to sort this issue i can totally relate to the problem it is a real pain in the donkey.please take heart it will be overcome i had the sme issues in class at 17 ateacher use to get me up on fromnt of the group and i felt totally embarrased to the pint to getting my mum to go to the school and talk directly to the teacher to let her boy alone and develop at my own pace.
So today i hold a CTM with toastmasters and have been in practice as a hypnotherapist in dublin ireland helping people with phobias etc i would help you in anyway i can to help sort this issue ..
some of the beat presenters and speakers had the biggest issue with this area in their youth. We can help to master this area contact me if you want
ken DUBLIN

**Posts:** 20 · by **datingexpert** » Tue Dec 06, 2011 12:12 pm

Hi jardine199,

Bless your heart for bringing up this all too common personal phobia and anxiety about Public Speaking!

So, gosh, you must be almost 18 years old by now, have your practiced hypnotism and self-hypnosis in many ways by mesmerizing yourself by regularly practicing self-hypnotism by attending and practicing your good public speaking skills in a ToastMasters group?

AprilBraswell
HypnoTalkToday

**Posts:** 33 · by **Toastmasters Scottsdale** » Sun Jun 17, 2012 8:34 pm

I like to introduce myself to the audience, especially those in the first row before my speeches/presentations.

It makes me feel like I know them and if I'm having a discussion versus a public speaking presentation.

Try that. I think it will work well for you.

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**Posts:** 33 · by **Toastmasters Scottsdale** » Sun Jun 17, 2012 8:36 pm

And another thing.

If you can, notice how your body is reacting while your speaking. I think you'll find your shoulders, stomach, neck, face and maybe legs are tensing up. This is the physical reason for your anxiousness. Sometimes, simply relaxing your body from its tense state is enough to clear your mind.

You're far from being alone on this.

**Posts:** 36 · by **Territory** » Fri Aug 03, 2012 2:57 am

Join Toastmasters. They come highly recommended by many...

**Posts:** 2 · by **kuma** » Sat Aug 25, 2012 9:37 am

Hi Jardine199,
Fear of public speaking is common. I have problems when I speak before the crowd, too. I wonder many time how to make a good presentation or just a good small speaking with my classmate.
Then, I realized that it is because I expected so much in my speaking. Each time I expect my speaking to be perfect, I become trembling.
My lesson is just feel free, be natural, say what is in side your heart, what u r really thinking and everyting will be alright.
Good luck!

**Posts:** 24 · by **bneil** » Thu Sep 13, 2012 1:08 am

People tends to be afraid of speaking on the public this is the effect of being afraid of rejection, One can't easily undo this feeling when in front of a crowd. Practice and repetition of trying to speak to many strangers would help out to improving us.

**Posts:** 33 · by **Toastmasters Scottsdale** » Tue Oct 09, 2012 4:11 pm

I agree with bneil, practice and repetition. I would add to practice in front of a mirror and record yourself.

**Posts:** 33 · by **Toastmasters Scottsdale** » Tue Oct 09, 2012 4:43 pm

This is what I was talking about with public speaking and breathing It's a really nice article and a basic primer that's done well for me.

**Posts:** 5 · by **laga** » Sun Mar 17, 2013 1:40 am

I'm getting hypnosis and its helping heaps - I just did a perfomance in front of about 25 people and I wasnt as nervous as i ususally am. This is just after trying the program for 2 days.

**Posts:** 18 · by **Sandeeps11** » Tue Apr 16, 2013 2:38 pm

Be prepare for public speaking rather than a boring presenting and become failure in presentation....

**Posts:** 52 · by **legacyinthemakingmagazine** » Wed May 22, 2013 6:28 am

jardine199 wrote:I am a 17 year old boy in my 2nd last year of secondary school. I have had a fear of public speaking for about 3 years now and i am sick of how stupid it is, yet it is controlling so many aspects of my life! I am very confident within my group of friends and family but when it comes to reading something out or giving a presentation infront of 5+ people i dont know well my heart beats like crazy, my voice deepens so low it can barely be heard and i find myself almost gasping for a breath after every couple of words. I have been told by all of my teachers and friends that i should be aiming high for university options, places like Cambridge and London School of Economics, but i feel myself holding back due to this ludacris phoebia. I don't want to continue life under the fear of a presentation coming up in school o having to read out a simple article in class. It's completely embarressing to have your friends see you like that when they expect you to be so confident. I dont know who to talk to about this and dont expect any radicle solutions from this wall post. I dont want to talk to my family about sorting out the problem but dont know how else to fix it?!i have read through so many posts by other people in my situation, yet it doesn't make me feel happier that im not the only one going through this, it makes me so angry that we feel trapped in this anxiety for the rest of our lives. I just wanted to get my thoughts out there and maybe have someone to talk to. I hate that i feel this is beating me, i really want to do something about it but i am scared that me facing my fear will end in humiliation and i'll backstep. VERY LOST ATM.

Hey jardine199,
At the same age as yours, i was also in the same situation. I was an intelligent student of my school. Lots of confidence with good academic records.
Even all the teachers of my school prefer me to read an article or presentation in the class or stage. This always boosted my experience. In the age of 14, i was still at good academic records and intelligence, but one day i felt my self nervous when teacher said me to read article as usual. When i was reading, i was continuously thinking of that all are listening me, my voice is going slow, shivering pitch and i am breathing very fast..After that i felt that i was not able to read further, and i am quitting..I said my teacher that i have some breathing problem, so can;t read and feeling tired. After that day, i always preferred to hide myself from teachers. I was felling that i can write well but can't speak. I can't face audience.. I have also shared this problem with my family and friends. they have told me that i have some physical problem and many said other different problem.. But i was only one that know that i was loosing my confidence.. With that fear, i have started to avoid to go to school. But i am still an intelligent student and very good academic record. And that fear never come to my written exams and knowledge..

I have learned many things from that experience..I have put myself in those conditions and raised my confidence again..Now i am very confident and overcome that fear by hard practice in front of mirror, my family members, little kids, etc.. I also don't want to think of that worse days..When i don't want to even live due to my that fear..

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