My pregnant wife needs a confidence boost!

Greetings,

I need your help. My wife is a beautiful and intelligent woman. And she's gloriously talented - she sings opera professionally and is well-respected for both her natural and carefully cultivated talents. We're also going to have a baby in just a couple of months and we're both very excited.

However, it's with none of that I'm asking for help...

See, she's got a serious confidence problem. She's scared, naturally, about the baby. It will change our lives. For one thing, it will make her performances difficult to rehearse for. Let alone the travel.

But even before the baby, she's had a terrible confidence problem. She doesn't believe she's good at anything. Including singing. Every compliment, she finds a way to dismiss. She avoids looking for gigs and then complains that nobody will hire her. Maybe there's something I'm doing or not doing... I don't know.

How to you go about helping someone to face up to their own goodness? Even greatness? She gets so depressed... and I think I only make it worse by trying to tell her how great she really is (as I noticed was mentioned as 'not helpful' in an article on your website.

Any suggestions?