tokeless wrote:Richard, you see no issue here and accept it sucks.
Of course I see an issue here. I see multiple issues. The situation sucks big time. But the degree of "sucktivity" doesn't create the solution.
To stick with your scenario.... was I invited to the mansion or did I just decide I'm staying there and WILL take over regardless of the situation?
Invited? Well, your family was sharing space with another family that lived in a big mansion down the street. The head of the other family convinced his sons and daughters that your family didn't need to exist. About 2/3rds of your family was slaughtered. You were helpless.
Luckily, some neighbors heard about the slaughter, among other things, and banded together to help save what was left of your family.
After the neighbors stop your family from being slaughtered, what happens? The neighbors decide you should go live in another mansion. The neighbors know you have a relative that lives in a mansion a few blocks down the street. So, they help you move.
Your family, what is left of it, arrives at this new mansion. While your one relative is happy to see you, the rest of the people living in the mansion are not happy. It is another family, and your family is not welcome. Not only does this family not welcome you into the mansion, but some of the neighbors are not very warm to this idea either. It doesn't matter to them that your family was slaughtered. They don't want you here.
So tokeless, what do you do?
If I'm head of the family that has just been slaughtered, do I once again put my family in the position of being the submissive sheep? Do I allow my family to fall under the governance of the family that already resides in the mansion? They are already not happy with us. They didn't agree with the neighbors that helped your family relocate. They are not happy that they had to give up some rooms in their mansion.
I know what I do. I thank the neighbors that saved my family and that helped what was left of my family to relocate. And I vow to never again be in a position where another family might slaughter 2/3rds of my family. So, I take the assistance of my neighbors that provide me with the ability to protect my family.
I'm not naive. I am well aware of the hatred towards my family that persists. I know the other family in this new mansion is not happy about giving up rooms and losing the power they had. I'm also well aware that the neighbors that helped save my family are not giving me all of this help out of pure kindness. But, having just watched 2/3rds of my family slaughtered, what better option is there?
And this takes us to our back room, that up until a few years ago was free for people to move back and forth. Now it is blockaded. How did it happen? It isn't because I'm some cruel dictator, actively trying to slaughter another family. In fact, that family has been growing. They have had several children. Many of them live in various rooms throughout the mansion. So why the blockade? Why did I feel it was necessary to seal up the doors to that one room?
As stated previously, I think this is a lose/lose situation.
There are a lot of good people in the neighborhood. Everyone deserves to live in a safe neighborhood with the ability to travel and live wherever they like. But, when people are actively trying to wipe out entire families, this isn't possible.