Andrew Macaskill wrote:Every day people wake up and have nice days together.
Not me. Every day it seems I have a problem with my mum we wake up and everything's fine but in hours we start at each other loseing our temper and we spend the entire day saying l hate you and l want nothing to do with you it's finished
What I want to know is why am l so nasty why do I have a agressive gene in me is it because of my father or did life or God give me this.
Whatever it is l don't want it l don't want to be an a**hole
I'm applying for the army they said that you change become more confident and calm
So why the F** am I still a b**** to my. mum
HELP ME WITH THIS . PLEASE
Dear Andrew,
I was in the Army. Yes, in the Army you do not moan and complain and give everyone a hard time BECAUSE you would be afraid to -- if you were a Serious Pain for the other Soldiers to put up with, they would Beat you Up and you would be sleeping in the Dumpsters, and you know it. Everyone knows it. People Behave Better In the Army Because They Are Afraid Not To. It is Not the Sergeants and the Officers that Keep the Men In Line -- it is the Other Men.
But with poor little old Mum, there is nothing to be afraid of. You can Say or Do anything to Her, can't you? You are not a Big Man, but you are bigger than she is, aren't you? If some Uncle, a Brother of hers, was living with you, and he was Six Foot 3 and 240 lbs, well I bet you would be as sweet as a little Pussy Cat, wouldn't you?
Anyway, If you want some advice, then here is some advice -- if you don't like your behavior, then STOP IT. Grow some Will Power. Read some Anger Management Books. I know you know how to Read... the Army doesn't take Illiterates.
I also believe your Army Career may be troubled from the Start. The Army works better for Some People. You can't get Blood from a Stone. the Army can take a Good Man and Make him Better. But the Army can only do so much with snivelers, whiners and criers. If you are to Make It in the Army you better Change for the Better NOW. Assert some Self Discipline over yourself Now. Toughen Up Now. Once you are in the Army, and you get on the Wrong Side of the Wrong Person, and they See you as a Walking Talking Catastrophe Ready to Happen.... you know, in the Army Lives Depend on Everybody Being Able to Pull Their Share... YOU Have to Be Clearly Dependable. You might find yourself On the Bus Home even before you realize What Happened. The Army Needs Men but it doesn't need More Problems.
If you want a good author for Anger Management Books, try Ronald Potter-Efron. You can get the book online. He wrote more than a few books, so read the Reviews and pick the ones that you think you would like.
If you decide to Man Up, then good luck and best wishes.