My significant other and I have been going to couples therapy for about 2 months.
We're going to a cheaper family center that tends to hire practitioners straight out of school. Our therapist does have a masters, but seems very green.
There are several issues. I'll mention the most pressing and concerning first.
Our past session was after a huge fight between me and my significant other. Once in therapy, the arguing continued to the point that we were screaming at the top of lungs, talking over eachother, hurling insults, etc the whole session. Our therapist just let this go on. She didn't coach us on how to speak affectivly or anything. I really feel worse than I felt prior to our session. I thought therapy was supposed to be a safe place?
Is this normal? Is she doing this to observe us or what?
Another thing that happened is, I asked her point blank how to properly react when my significance other does something that upsets me, instead of blowing up like I have been. She never answered my question.
Also, my significant other is not really doing our "homework", but I am. She has never addressed this either. I feel like I'm the only one doing the work (lliterally).
She also conducts sessions even when my significant other is stone drunk.
This doesn't seem productive. Am I being impatient or should we move on?
This past session really just was too much and there was no resolution or ending on a good note. She just said "give eachother space this week" and said she wanted to start seeing us individually for awhile.
My relationship is on it's last leg. I don't even know that we'll still be together by our next session, after how unproductive and truly destructive this one was. It certainly doesn't feel like this is what therapy should feel like??