Just want to be left alone to work!

You know there is always a way out. That ends it all. Its a real and viable option.

I know it's easier said than done, but think about this: whatever happens, it's not the end of the world.

Being homeless is very sad. I don't encourage you not to find a job and to become homeless. But when you cannot find a job yet, what can you do? Take some time off and ponder. Besides going to the food shelter, go to your local library to find books, go on the internet to find all the articles that could help you to overcome with your shyness and build up your confidence. And go to your doctor, the social welfare and employment centre to ask for help.

For the next job, if you want to keep it, learn to blend in with your co-workers a bit (I know it's not easy when you are quiet and shy - talking from my experience). And as you say you are a hard-worker, your manager would see that, so you can talk with her/him nicely and ask her/him to help you to request your co-workers to respect you that you want to be left alone to work. Supervisors/managers do watch employees. If they know you are a valuable employee, they will help you.

When you work hard and you are happy with your work, think that you work for your top boss who pays you, not for those around you who bully and make fun of you, you will feel better. Learn to speak up and stand up for yourself; don't let anyone bully you.

Wish you all the best.

Thanks. Wanna say two things though: Yes, I know there is a final option, and that's actually going to be the one I choose rather than homelessness, just didn't want to come out and say it. Sincerely glad that somebody else had the same idea.

Also, I'm not shy and down on myself like I used to be in school. I am still "different" though, and there's nothing I can do about it (not that I want to, I like it). That's what makes people come after you: being different. You can talk and laugh and help out, but one day they will be inviting you to lunch and waving at you in the hall, the next they won't know who you are, and things will start going "wrong". Really I've seen the same thing over and over.

And trust me, the boss does not care if everyone else has a problem with you, because he or she just wants their work life easier like everyone else. I sound like I'm mad but I'm not; the way people act makes sense, even if it isn't nice sometimes. Human nature I understand. (Ask me why I'm glad I'm different). I just need to know how to get around all this, and be able to keep a job on my own merit. I suppose if "people" won't let you have a job, just leave you alone and let you do it, then you just can't have a job, though that sounds so damn paranoid. It's like, be accepted or die, literally

The words that you say to yourself and the pictures that you make in your mind are massively important in creating your experience of the world. This video can help you, headphones recommended.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BgzVZNP ... YwdCN2DLoN

are you willing to change?

can you choose your next thought?

Thanks for sharing.

You say you're a little shy, different, etc. SO WHAT? Everyone on this planet is a little shy and different in some way whether they admit it or not.

Focus on what it is that makes you your best, even if you think there's only one or two things. Then try to live it out, even if it is by yourself for a while. I really don't believe you were intended to live depressed and homeless.

OMG! When I read your post I thought "when did I write this?" It's so wonderful to know that there is someone else out there who feels the same way I do. I dread going to work! I'm a nurse so I interact with people Most of the time. It's no the patients that drive me crazy, it's my co-workers. Sometimes I want to just yell out "will everyone just be quiet, please!". I'm shy and I like being left alone. I'm ok with not being involved in the gossip and office politics. I'm ok with spending my down time engaged in a good book. There's nothing wrong with being quiet. Just because a person is alone doesn't mean that they're lonely. I'm making a career change to suite my personality and going back into warehouse logistics in the mean time. I'm starting to think less women equals less drama.

Dear Headoo - I always prided myself on my work ethic and being able to get along well with co-workers. That being said, I had my very first experience with work place bullying about 2 years ago. It wasnt other co-workers, it was my direct supervisor. I didnt know how to handle it but kept showing up day after day. Eventually the stress took its toll and I ended up getting sick and was out of work for a bit. Needless to say - they fired me. I had never been fired IN MY LIFE. But it was the best thing that could've happened to me. I was able to take the time, collect unemployment and starting thinking.

No job is worth your life. NEVER let something as trivial tear you down. If you have issues in work places (and believe me they suck), try getting a job that you can do from home. Or look into going to school and getting a degree in a different area, such as IT. Most folks that go into IT are a little strange themselves. Heck, EVERYONE is strange in their own way. That is what makes you an individual. Use it - own it and be proud of it. Try not to let others get to you.

The one good thing I learned from my mom was how to deal with a bully. I had a 6th grader bully me when I was in 4th grade and she told me to "kill him with kindness". It was tough b/c I was scared to death of this kid (I am female the bully was male) but whenever I saw him in school, I was polite and went out of my way to try and say hello to him. It took awhile, but eventually he started saying hello back.

Try doing that with your co-workers. If that doesnt work, I find ignoring those folks just as good. A bully can only bully if you let him/her. If they dont think they are getting a rise out of you - then the bullying serves no purpose. All it does is take the attention off of what they are not doing or doing incorrectly. There are always going to be people who do less than the average worker, but are still highly valued. I have seen it over and over and though it is not fair, it is the way it is. Dont try to change others, just work on getting yourself to a place where what they say/do cannot affect you.

Please don't do anything rash. No bully is worth it. And trust me, the bully will not shed a tear for you if you make a final decision. They probably wont even acknowledge it. The only person who gets hurt in that scenario is you and your loved ones.

I hope this helps you a bit. Think before you act. Weigh everything else in your life that is good and go foward with that.

Bodhidharma wrote:You know there is always a way out. That ends it all. Its a real and viable option.

This is terrible advice! Why would anyone even suggest that to another person? THAT is just as bad as bullying. Shame on you.

Do not stop even if you are frustrated, because even if you stop, the world keeps on moving, you can be what you want to be just believe in yourself, I know it is easy to say!

But life will always push a around and that doesn't mean it is the end of the world! you can be better, keep on improving yourself and surround yourself with positive people that will also help you