WonderGurl wrote:Realistically you have two options:
A. you find a different workplace in the hope you will find it more enjoyable;
B. you work on resolving the issues in your current workplace.
Option A is pretty much straightforward.
If you decide to stay, figure out what angers you about this "kid". Is it that he's now your supervisor? Is it his unprofessional attitude? When figure you out what's bugging you about him, you can then deal with it.
Can i suggest that him addressing you with swear words and insulting you could possibly be considered a verbal attack, but that's beside the point.
It is unprofessional and demeaning the way the he addressed you in that particular situation. I would imagine that any employer should take it seriously. Now, i see you have very little faith in your hr managers, but if you want to resolve your situation, you have to play by the rules. First, i would respectfully approach the supervisor and have a civilised conversation with him about his approach towards you. Be calm, friendly, and confident. Have a witness. Hopefully that will put your supervisor back in his place. If he tries to waggle out of responsibility, you might have to consider getting in touch with his direct superior to explain the situation. What is the grievance procedure? Find out and use it to your advantage. Always have a reliable witness, but find out who can be a legitimate witness. Basically, employers tend to use and abuse staff, but if they get the sense that you know your rights and obligations towards them and their rights and obligations towards you, and that you respect both them and yourself, they should start to take you seriously. I mean, what employer wants to get sued by an employee whose rights were breached if indeed they were.
The trick to remember is to stay calm and collected at all times as the second you show your anger or upset, you've lost your battle.
A new job would be ideal, maybe, but where I work while it does f*cking suck, the money is really good. And where I live there's really not a lot else available.
And what angers me about this "kid" (I say kid because I think he's 20 or 21, I'm 27) But I don't care that he's my supervisor, that's not the problem. The problem is the way he speaks to me basically, it sounds pathetic reading it back to myself, but it doesn't matter what your position or your age is, if you talk to me like I'm a f*cking idiot, my blood will boil. I don't like it at all.
Actually I'm not sure which one it is, since he got his white hat he thinks it's okay to talk to me like sh**, or since my brother who used to work with me who can be pretty scary is gone now, he thinks it's okay to talk to me like sh**. maybe I should be scarier. I dunno.
the managers and HR guys are sh** too, here's another story. a bit over a year ago now the manager saw me and a friend messing around throwing bits of fat/meat at each other (I admit, it was stupid, I know) and I got sent to the HR office, almost got fired. I ended up getting 2 weeks unpaid suspension.
and that would be fair, you know? I got caught doing something stupid. Fair enough. BUT. here's the thing.
Since then, I've seen the same manager catch numerous other people doing the exact same thing. Guess what happened? absolutely nothing... not even a verbal warning..
There was another time I fell completely not my fault and almost smashed my leg almost breaking it, it bruised and swelled to about the size of a football in my shin, and the HR guy came and tried to make me stay at work... without seeing a doctor or anything like that, I ended up getting to go home though but it was a f***ing hassle.. when it shouldn't have been. people can say to the supervisor they need to go home cause they have a head ache or they're tired and they can go and it's never a problem. I never do that.. the one time I wanna go home early is a pretty legit reason I think.. the whole MASSIVE swollen leg that feels like it's gonna burst and everything. and my knee on the other leg was pretty banged up too.. and it's "oh nah you can't just go home cause of that mate.. sorry, but you can't do that".
Just all this collective sh!t all together, everything makes me have no faith at all. I don't believe HR or managers would help me with this thing with the supervisor. I have to either quit or find a way to deal with it myself that won't get me in trouble.