backstory
as im researching more about empaths and how generally we put everyone else first and ourselves last
also usually have low self esteem and self love and confidence and the whole package
also feeling guilt for taking care of my own needs or being better than others etc
I was browsing craigslist and out of nowhere a thought came up to check for messages from a girl that I hooked up a while ago.
even though I know she wont message me
I still check
so now I thought about why do I follow through with this negative pattern even though I know where it will lead
I still have a lot of those urges that I know will end up in negative feelings or sadness is I follow through with it
but usually I do it anyway
now, considering that our brain does everything to our own benefit, what benefit could I possibly get out of these patterns that make me feel sadness and add to stress and add to negative feelings in general.
there must be some benefit that I am getting from this but I just don't remember much about this topic.
I read about it like 10 years ago but at that time it was not relevant since I didn't have the understanding I have now.