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**Posts:** 3 · by **lady macbeth** » Tue Mar 15, 2005 12:00 pm

Hello everyone

I am 35 and have had a terrible temper since a teenager. I was lucky to have a very understanding husband who accepted and 'put up with' my outbursts and over the last few years (thanks to some counselling and anti-depressants) things had calmed down.

I left my marriage (although he is still a very supportive person in my life) last year and although I was back on the 'anti-looney' pills for a while the doctor advised me to come off them as they would not be of help to me whilst my life sucked as much as it did - you name it - if it could go wrong it would go wrong - the list is endless!!

I have a new partner who is trying hard to understand but during the last couple of weeks I have had some really bad outbursts and he has witnessed my first self halming episode - I have not done this for at least 5 years

The doctor has put me back on the anti-depressants but I want to sort this out properly but just dont know where to start.

Should the doc be able to refer me to somebody who specialises in this area - cost is highly prohibitive at the moment unfortunately. He has said that if I want to he could refer me to a psychiatist but I dont know if that is the best way to go?

If not where do I find out where I can go in my local area for support? I have only lived here for the past 12 months and dont have any support systems and am a little lost. I now live in south Surrey btw.

Any help or advice you could give me would be much appreciated - both by myself - my partner and the various parts of our home that I have had a go at recently

thanks

lady m

**Posts:** 4 · by **peaceful_mind?** » Tue Mar 15, 2005 1:33 pm

Hi lady m,
Welcome, I am a new member myself and I understand any support is apreciated. It would be advisable to seek some external help, a third party, someone you can talk to and explain what you are going through. I have recently found this website it's along the lines of buddhism, the way of beliefs are so totally different from us here in the west its www.anger-management-techniques.org. It might not solve everything but its definitley worth a read. I hope you are okay, it's hard to admit but it's the first step to changing those bast*&$d little patterns in the brain!

**Posts:** 3 · by **lady macbeth** » Tue Mar 15, 2005 3:41 pm

Hello peaceful

I have read about the basics of Buddhism and have had an experience with a loss support group I was part of where we were able to spend a day witha 'guru' who talked a lot - some of which made sense and some of which stretched my belief somewhat and he also had us run through some exercises that really brought some things home.

This is the type of experience I would like to pursue if I could. We were all friends from a support system such as this one and we were able to open up to people in a similar position much more than we could to somebody who had not been through the same things as we had.

Thanks for the link - I will have a sneaky peaky in my lunch hour tomorrow

xxx

**Posts:** 2522 · by **kfedouloff** » Tue Mar 15, 2005 4:59 pm

Hi lady macbeth

Can I ask what your temper was like before you became a teenager?

Kathleen

**Posts:** 3 · by **lady macbeth** » Wed Mar 16, 2005 5:29 pm

Hi Kathleen

as far as I can remember I was fine as a child but then teenage years where were my problems started - that is when I started to grow up and found that I did not live up to my dad's expectations. As an only child and a daddy's girl it was very difficult to live with his disappointment.

This is an area that I talked through with my last counsellor but as we had limited time (only 6 visits) we touched on that but mainly dealt with all my guilt stuff at leaving my husband and parents last year.

Believe me my dad has a lot to answer for lol

Lady M

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