Hi
Looking back over the clients who have come along with problems of jealousy there seems to be an equal number of men and women, it also seems to take a similar pattern ......of obsessive behavior stemming from a high anxiety state. I haven't noticed any gender differences.
Sometimes there is a reason to be mistrustful of a partner, but in the majority of cases the partner is desperate for the relationship to work, and is driven to dispair from the unrelenting checking, questioning and unreasonable demands.
The person who constantly feels that their partner is going to form a relationship with someone else is in a constant state of hypervigelance, I worked with one person who called her boyfriend about 40 times a day, and if they were out could not go to the bathroom for fear of leaving him on his own, wouldn't let him sit ina bar facing everyone incase he looked at another woman.
Once someone can learn to relax they then can begin to learn some relationship skills, and take on board new views but taking a step back is the first key step.
Jill