My boyfriend said he wanted to kill me and him.

**Posts:** 3 · by **mskickass** » Tue Jan 22, 2013 9:36 pm

I'm dating this guy named Kale right now. He's 21, I'm 16. He's a "super senior" at school, and he's incredibly gorgeous. He's not really friends with anyone at school besides me. We've been dating for a year and we're practically the same person. I've even started to develop his english accent. He's got an abusive father, and he's addicted to a lot of drugs. He's been showing me more and more how dumb the people I used to hang out with are. I used to be shallow, but he turned me into a deep person. He's so depressed though. He's been saying lately that we should kill ourselves together. He says that we'll meet in Hell and spend our death together lol I dunno though, I love him so much... but I'm not sure I'm ready to give up my life for him like that. Any advice?
And he's never abused me in any way. I know how crazy I sound, but I love him so much.

**Posts:** 3 · by **Hopefulflower** » Tue Jan 22, 2013 9:45 pm

Sounds like he could do with seeking advice from a counsellor or therapist. He must have a lot of suppressed emotions and feelings and feels that his only way out and away from them all is to commit suicide. I've been there and counselling really did help me, although it is still a constant battle at times, I would definitely recommend you encourage him to talk to someone.
It's clear you love him lots and he is very lucky to have someone stand by him through all of his troubles, but don't feel you have to give in and go with him through this as these things can be sorted and there is lots of help out there for him. For you both!
I hope you both manage to get the help you need x

**Posts:** 15 · by **leonamccauley** » Fri Jan 25, 2013 6:20 am

I would suggest you to motivate him and get him to the counsellor. You both need to realize that world is a lot more better place than you have ever thought of.

**Posts:** 84 · by **EFTFreedom** » Thu Feb 07, 2013 3:06 pm

The best advice I can give you is to cut him out of your life before something bad happens.

**Posts:** 19 · by **breathingnitrogen** » Mon Feb 25, 2013 3:39 pm

I have a boy friend alot like this....
my best advice is for you not to break up with him unless u feel the relationship is stagnant....
I suggest talking to him about doing things outside....hiking what not....
keep life in moderation
have him talk to strangers....have him make friends keep everything relaxed and you need to have him realize that you are not his begging and end....

there is a lot to life
relationships are only a part
he needs to find his other parts to life

**Posts:** 84 · by **EFTFreedom** » Tue Feb 26, 2013 4:49 am

Staying with him is the worst advice that can be given. And it comes from the 'oh I must save him' thinking.

But in the end it will only be dangerous.

-Ben

**Posts:** 19 · by **breathingnitrogen** » Tue Feb 26, 2013 3:00 pm

I agree with ben

if u are not happy
if u are in danger
if u realize that he is not ur responsibility
u realize u have to leave him....that does not mean to not care for him
it means to get distance so u can look at the situation differently to either leave or what ever im not telling u what to do....

**Posts:** 46 · by **Dave10** » Thu Feb 28, 2013 6:00 am

The best way is to consult to a doctor. Those things are really dangerous and can really happen.

**Posts:** 16 · by **mildmind** » Wed Apr 10, 2013 8:39 am

You should try to persuade him to love life,and establish right philosophy and values.If you are failed,you should take him to see a doctor

**Posts:** 13 · by **distorted_paranoia** » Thu Apr 11, 2013 4:08 am

Are you sure he's planning to kill both of you? I think his idea of "what's good for you two" is a bit messed up. If that's how he is, fine. That's how other me is. But if he's going to do something about it, I think some sense should be talked into him. Even if he might not, you still should confront him. A spark can cause a fire.

**Posts:** 28 · by **Patricia Rozzi** » Mon Apr 15, 2013 8:52 pm

I really think that the best thing to do is not see him anymore, it is dangerous, and it is too heavy for a 16 year old to be dealing with.
The people who you used to hang out with are not stupid at all, they are just living their lives as 16 year olds! and that is what they are supposed to be.
you will have plenty of time to be a grown up, don't try to do it all now, and don't put yourself in such a dangerous place.

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