Help?

Hi nallleyy,
Welcome to the forum

Sorry you're struggling with bulimia at the moment. And it sounds like there are also restricting tendencies in there somewhere when you say you'd like to lose weight despite other people saying that you don't.

But the thing with eating disorders is that they're rarely about eating or food or weight. They're more about other things that a person finds hard to deal with, and food becomes a way of coping with them.

When you say; "i do it when i feel like it honestly needs to happen...", I wonder what's going on that makes it 'need to happen'...

Take care,
Nigel

thanks. and idk im meaning it as if..ive got the feeling of ive ate too much. and i feel like i dont need to be doing that. its not good for me. or just the fact that it tears my stomach up.

do u mind me asking, how much do u weigh?

Hi nallleyy,

I'm guessing a bit because you haven't written very much about the problem. But when you said; "...ive got the feeling of ive ate too much.", does that mean a physical uncomfortable feeling, and have you actually eaten a lot?

I wonder because you also said; "...and i feel like i dont need to be doing that. its not good for me", and that makes me think that perhaps there's an element of 'guilt' about eating.

Perhaps you could try and explain a bit more, if you feel like it.

Take care,
Nigel

well im 5'6 and i weigh 156 lbs. :/ and idk..its like..i know that i eat out of bordem sometimes. and i shouldnt do that. and because of doing so..it results in me doing stupid stuff like throwing up. i havent got to the point of me doing it constantly every day. but i feel as if im going to get there one day. ive got a friend struggling with it too..and shes went downhill from it. and she even weights less than me. i hate how much i weigh. i really do. i want something to keep me occupied everyday that doesnt make me get bored where idont wanna eat at the wrong times,. and when i said ive got the feeling ive ate too much..its both..
and what do u mean by element of guilt? and yes because i do not want to get any fatter than what i already am..

Boredom or comfort eating isn't uncommon, and it's good that you've recognised this is starting to become a problem before it develops into a big one. Well done . Constantly throwing up can cause a lot of serious health problems that a person is often unaware of at first.

Are you aware of BMI (Body Mass Index)? It's a combination of a person's weight and height, giving a 'healthy' weight range to stay within. There are loads of online calculators for it. You're height and weight puts you right on the upper limit of the normal range, so just ok although it would do no harm to lose a few pounds if that makes you feel better.

So it seems like you already know what would help. To find other things to be doing during the day. Are you still at school or working, or is that the problem - too much time with nothing much to do. What about hobbies - either a new one or revisiting something you used to do when you were younger. Something that takes the focus off food. But do stick to eating regular healthy meals.

Does your friend want to beat this too? You could both support each other. Then when one of you is faced with a 'triggering' situation, it's a good distraction to be able to pick up the phone and talk to somebody who understands how it feels, until the urge to binge passes.

"...and what do u mean by element of guilt?"

I meant, do you find yourself feeling guilty about eating something after eating it, but I think you already answered that when you said; "i know that i eat out of bordem sometimes. and i shouldnt do that..."

Just off out. Might be around later.

Take care,
Nigel

ha thhanks. and i dont do it constantly. i do it when i feel it is needed.
and the whole bmi thing? bleh and its good i do need to looose soome,. how much do you think exactly id need to loose?
yea we just got out of school today. so this summers turning to crap. it happened last year too. :/ and honestly dont know any other kinda hobbies. some stuff kids do around here are stupid and iinvolve lots of people..and i really dont like bunches of people.yes i do eat out of bordem.
and i shouldnt do that.
cuz it winds me up to throwing up.

No nallleyy,
This summer is NOT going to be crap

If it happened last year then at least you can look back and see how it went wrong then, so try not to repeat those same things again this year.

I don't really like doing things involving loads of people either, so I know what you mean. But there must be other things to do. Do you have any friends who don't like doing stuff in crowds? Or what about joining a club to do with something you quite enjoy? It makes it a lot easier to make new friends when there's that common interest there.

"and the whole bmi thing? bleh and its good i do need to looose soome,. how much do you think exactly id need to loose?"

Hmm... according to the calculator I used, about 130lbs is about the middle of the normal range for your height. That would be good to aim for because then if things go a little bit wrong for a while you're still within the normal range, and that makes it easier to get things back on track again.

But no silly or extreme dieting, please. I don't want to find myself writing to you about anorexia in 6 months time

Now go and make some plans for having a great summer
Nigel

i hope your right. i dont want to go through another summer of that.

i can look back on it and that tells me i need to get involved with alot of summer activites. just donno what. and yes i cannot stand crowds for anything. and i do know friends who dont like crowds but they arent close enough to hang, and a club? i dont think theirs any around here worth joining.
and 130? ah..i should keep walking around town then. =]
thanks

"i can look back on it and that tells me i need to get involved with alot of summer activites."

Well that's a good start. At least you know the sort of things that will help. Now it's just a question of 'how'

Perhaps you could write down a list - a BIG list - of all the things you could possibly do. And I mean ALL. Doesn't matter if half of them aren't doable. Doesn't matter if some are quite ridiculous! Just write down everything you can think of.

Now go for a walk or do something else for a while...

Then later, have a read through your list and see what you think...

Are there one or two things there that you might be able to do, or might like to do? Or perhaps something on it gives you an idea of something else you could try...

See what you can come up with

Nigel