For as long as I could remember, in the midst of an intense argument, I immediately resort to: “lets not talk anymore”, “i dont want to hear from you”, “i wish you the best”, “take care”. ALWAYS.
When I was in highschool, it was okay for me because I was figuring my life out. Now? I’m 25 still using this coping method and it is dangerous. I recently was talking to a guy long distance. Being frustrated with the distance, my past trust wounds, and the fact that he hasnt asked me to be his girlfriend yet (being transparent), has made me cut him off dozens of times in the last few months of us talking. I recently mentioned it and he flipped on me. He said he was tired of me threatening to leave him and end things.
I initially did not care. But i see the pattern and want help. (I also recently did this with a friend and we were friends for 3 years....)