by Leo Volont » Sun Jan 10, 2021 12:52 am
Hi Laureat,
Well, yes, it would be great if we could all go on vacation, preferably in an East Asian Country where the high standards for Civilization account for smooth non-abrasive manners among the populations generally but especially in the servers that vacationers would interact with. Even the most anger prone people could be anger free in such situations. It seems that Confucius knew all about Anger Triggers and codified a manner of living where it was forbidden that people push each other's buttons.
But most people with Anger Management Issue are living high stress lives. I've seen it time and time again on this Forum that there is plenty of good advice I can give, but after listening to all the stressors that they are confronting, well, I would be amazed and have profound respect for such people if they could successfully begin to deal with their Anger Issues while everything that provokes their anger is still beating them over the head.
Really, it is one of the reasons I believe we should live in a Socialist State with a lot of planning and provisions for a lot of social intervention. In such a state people who are crossing a certain threshold in regards to anger displays could be evaluated for stress, and if it is their jobs, or maybe particular co-workers, then they could be transferred. But stress does not go away over night. The Amygdala, the gland in our brain that squirts out Anger Juice, well (cortisol), it gets leaky under chronic stress which tends to give stress some inertia... it takes time to wind down. So people should get evaluated for Stress Induced Anger and put on Vacation, not just for their own good but for the sake of everybody. Angry People are Real Bummers, right? Also, in many cases, such as with Spousal Abuse, Anger can actually lead to serious harm. Many Gun Rampages are probably just really blown up Stress Related Anger Issues.
Yeah, the Psychological Community knows how to treat for Anger Management. But we can't control the patient's environment. It is like trying to put out a House Fire in the middle of a Forest Fire.
So, yeah, Lauriet, are you really advising people to "take a break" from their spouses (does saying "Honey I can't deal with right now" make things better or make things worse?), to likewise walk away from their Bosses and Co-workers when they begin to pile on the work and make difficult demands or impose frustrating obstacles to your own priorities? Laureat, it's just not possible. People do not CHOOSE stress. Stress is imposed by our Society.
I love giving advice on this Forum but I realize that it is mostly futile. And you might as well be telling everybody that what they need is a nice Swiss Skiing Vacation. Just rent a Chalet for six months and that will fix them right up. Yeah, you'd be right.