petite_cherie5 wrote:I am working in a big company, I am 21 years old turning 22 this year. And I feel weird, because I see my supervisor (who's in her late 30's) as a mother. I am confused, although I know work and personal life is totally different. I am just looking a mother figure since my mom isn't too sweet and my supervisor has something that I am lookin' for. I know I am being immature and childish, but I can't help it! Although that supervisor doesn't have children or hubby. Whenever I am with her, I feel awkward yet she's so sweet, bubbly and very talkative when we are together (I noticed that she isn't like that to everyone at work). Also knowing that she has been in my country (somewhere in Asia) for a visit and she has friends from my country. We have a lot in common too, we've been to same places, we have the same taste of music, clothes, movies... Oh and she even congratulated me for doing a good job and for working hard, it made me so happy! I even daydream that she's my mother. A family friend of mine and my best friend told me that it's better if I separate my personal life from work and never expect too much or else I'll get hurt. And don't even trust her! What can I do? Again, I just can't help it. I know 'Your boss is not your mother' (Just like the book). Please guys help me!!! By the way, she was also my trainer&teacher!
Robert Plamondon wrote:petite_cherie5 wrote:I am working in a big company, I am 21 years old turning 22 this year. And I feel weird, because I see my supervisor (who's in her late 30's) as a mother. I am confused, although I know work and personal life is totally different. I am just looking a mother figure since my mom isn't too sweet and my supervisor has something that I am lookin' for. I know I am being immature and childish, but I can't help it! Although that supervisor doesn't have children or hubby. Whenever I am with her, I feel awkward yet she's so sweet, bubbly and very talkative when we are together (I noticed that she isn't like that to everyone at work). Also knowing that she has been in my country (somewhere in Asia) for a visit and she has friends from my country. We have a lot in common too, we've been to same places, we have the same taste of music, clothes, movies... Oh and she even congratulated me for doing a good job and for working hard, it made me so happy! I even daydream that she's my mother. A family friend of mine and my best friend told me that it's better if I separate my personal life from work and never expect too much or else I'll get hurt. And don't even trust her! What can I do? Again, I just can't help it. I know 'Your boss is not your mother' (Just like the book). Please guys help me!!! By the way, she was also my trainer&teacher!
Does the word "mentor" apply here?
JuliusFawcett wrote:It seems that your gut instinct is that she has something to help you with the next stage of growth in your life, this is healthy, it is fun to follow your intuition, your heart always knows the path of happiness more than your head.
Herbie306 wrote:How would you feel about her afterwards if she needed to reprimand you? No matter how you feel about her, I think there still needs to be some respect between the two of you.
I don't think there is anything wrong with a supervisor / supervisee (?) going for lunch together, though the strong feelings you have for her could make things difficult for you should things take a turn one way or the other. Take care.