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Hi
It is indeed a question!
It paints a picture of the blind leading the blind.
Quite often it can be said our childhoods are full of disfunction.
Parents ill-equipped or qualified to mentor in these dramatic and dependant years, off load problem after problem onto youngsters like a bad story...a story with very little chance of a happy ending.
This is a problem for all of us and is obviously the same for doctors,dentists and mental health workers.
We all tend to hope to find that these people will hold the golden shot that goes straight to the core of our problem and offers a fix that matches like a glove fits a hand, we then find that all we have are the problems and more incorrect observation and opinion.
It goes to the very core of psychology as page upon page in volume after volume restate the same conclusions about indeviduality and human experience.
This are what they teach and this is the help we might get.

I notice there is no mention of my name in the index!
No one alse can feel my pain...only me.
I worry and worry and create problem on top of problem until the world seems a very dark place to be. A place with only one acceptable face and that is to smile and put on a brave face...
We all have something to offer each other in terms of experience and encouragement, problem solving and mentoring.Often all we really need is a steady pair of hands for a while in order to put some wrong thinking behind us but this is hard to ask for and hard to find.All tooo quickly days turn to weeks and answers turn into medication and intervention of the most unskilled kind.
But therapists and psychologists are only people who like us live in a complicated and un compromising world. armed only with the lightest weapons of study and knowledge gleaned from the frustrated teachers in the lonley world of accademia,or even worse the commercial world of get rich quick self help and 'mind body spirit' healing methods,
regurgitated like some religious text they too become victims of their innocence, helpless already....
So I do understand your quandry and I too ask the same questions..
Most people are indeed full of sh!t... and that ain't no lie!
Rob

Thanks for your reply Rob.

Question

Would you say that the NHS mentle health system is now more in tune with the times?

I would hope so..
But in this City and through personal experience I would say it is still a minefield.
The same basic truths still hold in that there are very many variables and constraints in helping someone through problems.
I all too soon realised in my short study of psychology that it really is beyond expectation for definitive answers to any particular set of difficulties.
A much more 'suck it and see' approach is the norm.
But as a lay person and certainly no professional I can not really say why I have these inpressions.It is perhps that as I get older I begin to see exactly how screwed up everyone is...it is just that some people have an ability to float in this chaos and some seem to go under all too easily.
It is a close call for each of us though...this much I do know.
Rob

Anyway Rob its been nice chatting & as you yourself will know all things come to an end its also time to move on.

Look aftar yourself

Bye

Rob

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Question

There is this lad I know who go's into the cafeteria.

How can I help him?

The lad should hold his head up high ! Also I should tell him that he is doing great.


Any ideas ?

Think I'm talking to my self here

Anyway I would say that a Stress management Course WOULD HELP THE LAD .

Also he could help others to help themselves !