I'm in need of some help as quickly as possible

First off, I don't think you're that terrible of a person, you've got something going on inside that you want to let out, and you honestly don't want to hurt anybody doing it. I was 21 until last week and I've had some recent anger issues that I'm trying to deal with as well (which is how I stumbled on this site), so I know how it is to be perfectly fine one minute and then a ball of rage the next. I used to snap at the stupidest things and beat on my friends, but eventually I learned to stop.

Now I try to keep my mouth shut and my hands by my side. I'd ask people to stay away from me if I thought I was going to lash out at them. I tend to just brood or pace back and forth if I'm angry, sometimes I play drums or write angry stuff or shadowbox if I'm alone.

It does feel like a double-edged sword in a way. It's good because I'm not going around knocking people out. It's bad because if I hold it inside and don't take care of it or diffuse it, it could build up and boil over.

I hope you get something from this advice, but even if you don't I just want to say that you're not alone and you're not a despicable person who deserves to die because of this. From what I've seen recently, people like us are more common than I'd thought. We're not bad people, we're just high strung at times.

Do what I did recently, its hard to do but if you really want to change it does help ENORMOUSLY! Go see your doctor and ask for a referral to an anger management counsellor. It really does help. I was exactly the same, Im still doing anger management at the minute. Dont let it get as far as it did for me. I lost my partner, I love her more than anything in the world yet I hit her, Im ashamed of it and I didnt want to tell my doctor because I didnt want anyone to know, but trust me, they dont judge you and the counselling really helps. Good luck and keep us all posted on your progress. You CAN change, its hard work, but do-able!

thank you, it helps to know i'm not the only one in the world like this (because i feel that sometimes).
Since last week i've tried really hard not to get mad with people but there's part of me inside that's just screaming to get out, i feel like i'm being fake, so overy nice to people etc.. I only feel like this because i had an argument today and instead of getting mad i just sat and listened to all the bad things that were said about me, i tried to laugh about it and i controlled my anger but now i feel so hurt, at least when i'm mad the comments stop.
I'm not sure what to do. I either get angry and people leave me alone or i have to sit and endure insults???????????

hey
I'm trying my hardest to stop being so angry but it came out again the other night and i lashed out
I want to ask my doctor for anger management help but i just walked out of my last therapy session so i don't think they'll refer me.
I want so badly to be 'normal' but whenever i feel like it's getting better i somehow find all of this rage that i have.
It sucks

Hey,

I used to be a pretty angry person. I never hurt anyone with it. When my angre cooked over i just started an houre long rant and flamed and yelled at whatever made me angry.

I guess i have one thing going for me that i'm to compassionate to hurt people or scream at people because of my angre. I did quite a bit of ranting at peoples doorsteps because of it though.

A difference is maybe that i always knew what made me angry. In my case it was always a build-up of past events of the same negative nature. Like when soemthing happens you don't like. You computer crashes, someone slams their brakes infront of you for no apparant reason, someone is being an donkey to you. I have a tendacy to remember all these things very clearly and the next time soemthing simular happens it all comes flooding back and explodes like a bomb.

I had big problems controlling this because i felt it was unfair that it always happened to me. I felt like a had very bad luck and found that to be unfair etc. One day i realized. These things don't happen that often AT ALL. I just remember them so clearly because they made an impact on me. By realizing this, i have been able to just go over small things unnoticed. The type of things that used to ignite me i now don't even notice anymore.

While i used to notice them and get enraged over them because as soon as it happened the fresh memories of past experiences came back. I've been able to get over the feeling like i'm just unlucky and how it is injust and that has pretty much solved it for me...

I have to admit that sometimes i still yell at an annoying videogame or rant when someone does something dumb in traffic but it seems like alot of people do this and it's not really a big deal. When something liek this happens i tend to smooth over again pretty fast so it's not really an issue anymore...

I hate being so angry, i hate it.
The other night i got so mad and i din't try to hit anyone or anything, but i just kept stamping my foot over and over again until it hurt so much i couldn't do it anymore. It seemed to calm me doen but why can't i just be normal?
I'm losing it, i swear

I think you need to figure out WHY you are mad. What ignites you? You can't very well just get angry all of a sudden without something first trigering it?!

Maybe you should try to pay attention and notice what makes you angry, what starts it, then what thoughts inforce you angre. Becoming inraged is a chain of events. It starts with something annoying you then turns into frustration , angre and eventually rage but inbetween every step you thinking things. If you aren't follwing this stream of events i would say you have some sort of affliction like tourette syndrome or another variant in which case its compulsive...

What happens prior to you becoming angry/enraged?

hi, i'm sorry to hear about your rage and it's impact on your life. i think you name it's source in your initial text when stating 'i have an idea what makes me angry'. it might be hard but dealing with whatever this is will help you to deal with your own behaviour in the bigger picture.

sincere good wishes

I'm new here, but personally I'm amazed that nobody who responded has mentioned the drinking. Anger management simply couldn't work for me if I was still drinking for escape this way. I removed the drinking and addressed my life any why I drank, and found that process was enough to resolve many lifelong issues that had seemed entirely unrelated to the booze. Sure, I'm still left with whatever needs addressing, but I have a much clearer head and thus a clearer idea of what they are, even if I'm still not sure how to resolve them.