Guess what? wrote: Why having people that love me can't be a goal?
Love is an outcome, not a goal.
Love isn't actionable. You can't force other people to feel a certain way about you. You can't have a goal that is dependent upon what someone else is or is not willing to do or feel.
For instance, you can have the goal to provide another person food, clothing, shelter. These are actionable goals, things you can make happen. How that person feels about you caring for them by providing them food, clothing, shelter is up to them. Most often, those people feel admiration, love, respect, thanks, gratefulness, etc. Most often, people receiving these things don't feel animosity or hate. How those people feel is an outcome of your actions.
So...if you want to be loved, your goals must be actions that people typically find lovable.
As a simple example. Two men buy a woman flowers. That is an actionable goal. The woman loves that one man bought her flowers, but rejects the other man. How unfair! Why should the woman not love them both equally. She must accept them for who they are! That is the stupidity of some life philosophies that promote the idea that acceptance is a must. No...the woman can receive flowers from two men and reject one or both men. There is no law or mandate or heavenly requirement she love these men.
If you want to be loved, set actionable goals that are lovable, do things deserving of love, but never believe another person must love you.