by ~Psycho~ » Thu Mar 29, 2007 1:42 pm
KAL,
I have the same problems as you. I guess you just have to go with the flow, if you know what I mean. In my opinion, if you are under negative emotions and under psychological stress, try to understand first why you are feeling this way, but if you know it is something that is irrational or something that is related to your physiology like your "overstimulated amygdala", don't be too introspective and intrapersonal, instead, just keep your mind off it and try to be more spontaneous.
Like for example, if you always feel unconfident and generally have a low self-esteem, be more spontaneous and do less self-reflecting as over the years, I learnt that that it would get me more depressed. I am not saying that we should not look our problems in the eye but I am saying that when we can not do anything about it, like the fear of public speaking, the only thing to do is to take a deep breath and take the plunge into the cold pool. Thinking about the fear of public speaking would only make matters worst and would be a waste of time, as trying to convince yourself about something can be really difficult or at most temporary.