How to be more emotional intelligent?

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Mon Sep 04, 2017 6:39 am

1. You observe your emotional states.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Mon Sep 04, 2017 6:39 am

2. You observe the "logical decisions" that come after each emotional state.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Mon Sep 04, 2017 6:40 am

3. You find which decisions have to do with which emotional states.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Mon Sep 04, 2017 6:41 am

4. After you know that, in order to produce needed chain of decisions all you need to do is recreate necessary emotional state.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Mon Sep 04, 2017 6:42 am

5. The only question is what happens if there are other much stronger emotions present at the moment where you need to get the specific one?

To deal with it it's a 3 step process.

5.1 You think about the decision you want to make for half a second.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Mon Sep 04, 2017 6:43 am

5.2 You immediately turn you attention onto your current emotions.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Mon Sep 04, 2017 6:43 am

5.3 You give yourself a metaphor about how you'd like to have a completely new needed emotion.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Mon Sep 04, 2017 6:44 am

All that you have to do now is observe your emotions still and wait for them to shift.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Mon Sep 04, 2017 6:44 am

As they finish shifting, use appreciation for what you've done and get on with what you wanted to do.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Mon Sep 04, 2017 6:45 am

This is a very simple yet powerful way of controlling your strong emotions. It works almost immediately if you give yourself the proper transition metaphor.

**Posts:** 2 · by **roterdank** » Mon Sep 04, 2017 8:08 am

In our school we were told to read lot of literature to get emotional and all. I did that but it didn't work. Then i google "emotional inteligence" and red a few works from Paul Eckman. I hope that this will help you.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Tue Sep 05, 2017 1:49 pm

I found another very powerful way how to alter emotions.
First step is to stand up and do a squat at ever decreeing speed, as you're doing it observe the feelings generated in muscles of legs. When you invert the direction ever so much slower the mussel will generate even more sensation. You do 5 squats like this.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Tue Sep 05, 2017 1:50 pm

Or you do 5 ever slower push ups against the wall in the same manner.
Or you use isometric pressure of your muscles in a way where you put palms together and push tightly. It also generates a lot of feelings.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Tue Sep 05, 2017 1:51 pm

Once you've done it, you sit down and just observe your internal sensations and thoughts. The previous exercises allow to place your awareness on your physical self much more easily.

**Posts:** 39 · by **TheLineMan123** » Tue Sep 05, 2017 1:52 pm

Then what you do is you simply observe the feelings, they come and you register them with your awareness and that's it. If you'll use equanimity upon the emotions that will come their energy will start dissipating.

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