Hi everyone, i'm 18 and my brother is 24.
i'm afraid for him because he has alot of anger inside, i'm not afraid of him personally, we are very close and i know he would never do nay thing to hurt or harm me, we get on great and we often go out together with the same group of friends, but i know that inside he cannot be very happy with all this anger pent up inside him. anything can set him of, he shouts alot and has a very short temper, i have six other brothers and two other sisters and thay all seem ok so i don't think it had anything to do with the way thay were reared or genetics or any of that, we have different fathers as his dad died when he was 4, i think this may have something to do with it as he didn't really like my dad when my mom first met him, which is understandable.
i just don't know what to do, i really want to help him, but he won't see a professional, and any time i mention it he gets angry, i'm afraid for his future, some day he will really snap and do some serious damage and ruin himself and maybe someone else, he also binge drinks alot some nights he willl sit in and drink a whole bottle of wine to himself, this really scares me as i hate to see him destoying himself, he is so nice and thoughtfull in every other way he is very popular and every one who meets him loves him, he is so easy to get on with and always is out for a good time and a laugh, he is the life and soul of every party. i love him so much but it is breaking my heart seeing him waste away, he dosn't think there is any ting wrong with his temper or his drinkin, at least he wont admit he does, i'm sure deep down he realises something is wrong
i would really appreciate some advice on how to help him, and how to persuade him to help himself as i know i cannot 'fix' him and it has to be something he wants to do for himself.
thanks
DL