by Candid » Thu Nov 03, 2011 11:17 pm
Your father-in-law can't take the baby from you and your husband, so don't fret over that. He sounds a bit odd, to be truthful.
Best thing is for you and your husband to take good care of each other and the baby, and maybe laugh at the old man. If your husband is strong enough to stand up to his father, he should be doing that whenever father-in-law gets out of hand.
Some handy things for your husband to say: "Dad, you did such a brilliant job raising me that [your name] and I are more than capable of raising [child's name]."
"If you keep saying this kind of thing, we won't visit you for a while. We want your support and to have a happy family, and [your name] is a part of that."
He should be speaking up whenever your father-in-law says something hurtful. If he doesn't recognise when something is hurtful, you need to be able to speak up yourself... but you need your husband's full support.