desperate788 wrote:I'm reluctant to start therapy again..There are also money issues.
I remember when you could always find the money to buy clothes for g. How about you try loving yourself as much as you loved her?
Loving yourself means knowing what you need right now and how to get it, then going out and getting it.
Look in the mirror every morning and say aloud: "T, I love you."
Some people find that ridiculously hard. They look in the mirror only to see what's wrong with themselves, and fix it.
Practise looking in the mirror and saying: "T, I love you exactly as you are, and I always will." Do it as often as you can, see what contradictory ideas come up, shout them down and do it again until you can say it and mean it... and feel it throughout your day.
I know a man, a few years older than I am (that's old!) who tells himself: "I get better-looking every day." He's the most chilled guy I know, very comfortable with himself. And guess what? Recently I looked at a photo of him taken about 20 years ago, and another taken in August this year... and he's right! In his mid-60s he looks better now than he did then.
There was a great book by Wayne Dyer, You'll See It When You Believe It. That sums it up.
Whatever you believe about yourself is always true, no matter what the rest of the world says. The rest of the world doesn't live in your head.
You decide who you are. You can turn your life around. Get up and dance!
