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**Posts:** 11 · by **timeisdead** » Fri Apr 01, 2005 9:44 pm

i have allways had big anger problems, im the worst loser in the world, and tiny things set me off. wen i was younger i used to literally throw my sister across the room, i broke her ribs so many times i cant remember, i threw her downstairs a few times, and allmost pushed her out a window, wen i was 8 i even attacked her wiv a spade. wen we were little ppl on our road would here screaming, and phone up to make sure everything was ok. i never meant to hurt her, it just came out in a blind rage, and afterwards i would just sit there shaking and crying in the deepest depression afterwards.

It got less bad wen i started self harming and takin it out on myself more i spose, ive allways harmed to some extent but this was wen i started using blades, but then i went thru more things and it was getting wores again before i moved out at 16 (i developed a codeine addiction and i think the withdrawl made me more agressive)

Anyway, its nowhere near as bad now, i get angry, but i tend to be able to control mysel,f more, but i have hit my boyfriend a few times, not really really badly but its left a handprint, but ive only ever done one hit before snapping out of it, i know this is still bad, but its nothing compared to how i used to be, luckily its only happened a few times and my boyfriend is very understanding, but i feel horrible putting him thru even that, and i just need some coping strategies to stop me losing control, cus as soon as i snap, nothign will stop me, any advice would be really useful

**Posts:** 2522 · by **kfedouloff** » Sun Apr 03, 2005 8:22 am

hi timeisdead

Sorry to hear you are having such a struggle with your short fuse! It sounds like you have already made some efforts to get on top of this. Have you thought about asking your doctor for a referral to an anger management course, or counsellor?

You might find this anger management website helpful too.

And have you tried simple things like, when you notice that your temper is rising, stopping yourself and deliberately and slowly counting up to 20?

Do you talk with your boyfriend about what it is that sets you going?

Kathleen

**Posts:** 11 · by **timeisdead** » Sun Apr 03, 2005 2:18 pm

i dont really get any warnign signals, i just snap, (one minute i could be laughing or smiling really happily then the next im just gone) i saw councillors and psychs for anger management wen i was younger, but they didnt get very far with sorting it out,they took away stimulants and tryed that route but it never worked, i refused to speak to psychs wen i was younger, and just sat there in silence so i think maybe thats my biggest problem.

thanks for your advice, i will try and read tha anger management thing

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