Hi there,
>
>Just stumbled across this group and thought it may hold some
>interesting info and chat.
>
>I suffer with low self esteem and predominantly social anxiety and
>generalised anxiety disorder.
>
>I am going to see a NLP therapist for the first time on Friday.
>Apprehensive?? Yeah I sure am.
>
>I have been working with CBT, but lack the motivation to see it
>through. I desperately want an end to this life damaging problem.
>
>Any suggestions, tips for Friday?
>
>Cheers all
>
>Julie
NLP tips?
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by Julie » Wed Nov 19, 2003 9:15 am
- Julie
by Mark Tyrrell » Wed Nov 19, 2003 11:55 am
Hi Julie and a big wellcome to the forum 
As far as tips go for Friday all you can really do is practice 'relaxing with uncertainty'. Just waiting to see how something pans out, rather than mis-using the imagination and 'having to know' what something will be like before you actually experience it is a great and valuable skill to develop.
Think about other times in your life when you've successfully relaxed with not knowing how something was going to be in advance. The feeling is: 'I don't know how this is going to go but, whatever happens, I'll deal with it!' This is really what confidence is about. It's ofcourse natural for you to feel a little nervous but to take the edge off it practice relaxing (to a tape, music, breathing deeply etc. whilst imagining visiting the therapist on Friday. This will effectively forge an association in your mind between pysiological calm and Friday's visit.
Also visit our sites at: http://www.panic-attacks.co.uk/ and http://www.uncommon-knowledge.co.uk/ for more help.
Hope this is useful to you.
Mark
As far as tips go for Friday all you can really do is practice 'relaxing with uncertainty'. Just waiting to see how something pans out, rather than mis-using the imagination and 'having to know' what something will be like before you actually experience it is a great and valuable skill to develop.
Think about other times in your life when you've successfully relaxed with not knowing how something was going to be in advance. The feeling is: 'I don't know how this is going to go but, whatever happens, I'll deal with it!' This is really what confidence is about. It's ofcourse natural for you to feel a little nervous but to take the edge off it practice relaxing (to a tape, music, breathing deeply etc. whilst imagining visiting the therapist on Friday. This will effectively forge an association in your mind between pysiological calm and Friday's visit.
Also visit our sites at: http://www.panic-attacks.co.uk/ and http://www.uncommon-knowledge.co.uk/ for more help.
Hope this is useful to you.
Mark
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by Roger Elliott » Wed Nov 19, 2003 12:11 pm
Hi Julie
You might also want to have a look at Mark's self esteem tips, and the rest of the self confidence site.
A good NLP practitioner should be able to help you out quickly, particularly with social anxiety, and once that becomes easier, other things will improve too.
Let us know how you get on
Roger
You might also want to have a look at Mark's self esteem tips, and the rest of the self confidence site.
A good NLP practitioner should be able to help you out quickly, particularly with social anxiety, and once that becomes easier, other things will improve too.
Let us know how you get on
Roger
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