I replied to Antigreen in the way that I did because I once asked the same question but I asked it of my self and I didn't rest until I figured it out my self.
So please tell -
what did you figure out in the end?
With regard to the notion of everybody "acting" I think there are two levels to this.
At one, fundamental, level, yes everyone is acting, according to the role they are try to fill - wittingly or not.
However there is another level.
Speaking from my own experience, some years ago I felt I didn't really fit into what most people considered "normal society". It was not because I was shy (although most people, annoying, applied that label to me), or unable to engage, but simply that I didn't find things such as "small talk", or speaking to someone for the sake of it that compelling. I suppose I spent a lot of time in "downtime" - introspectively pondering things within myself - much like Bell in another thread.
Then one day I decided, for some reason, that I wanted to appear more part of that "normal society", so I *acted* the part that people thought they expected to see. I was outgoinging, always the first to make a move, making new friends, boldly stepping up. I drew people to me. I was so successful in it that I began to feel a little guilty because to me it was just an act.
Since then I have made different changes. I largely fill the same role, but feel more genuine about it - but I am still conscious that the way I act is through choice, and in many respects I am perhaps more conscious about my social interactions than the average person.
More recently I have learnt more about the underlying pschological make-up and, in particular, the role and development of the emotional circuitry of the brain. I now understand more fully how I can do things consciously that other people do without thinking, and why what I once thought of as "acting", while true, is not necessarily a bad thing - it is part of the protocol by which we interact and communicate as humans and can either be learned through early experience, or later through choice. The former being more readily absorbed as part of our emotional response, the latter taking more effort, but can still be ultimately passed on to the subconscious emotions.
There are some people that just seem to live in the outside world without ever really thinking about it. This can seem ridiculous and unworkable to those of us that spend a lot of time in "downtime" (introspectively pondering within ourselves), but in fact they are probably more in tune with how our minds are setup to function effectively. It could be said that they miss out more on the intellectual pursuits of life, which are always painted as being so much more pure and edifying. We have the capacity to think as well as feel our way through life. As always balance is the key. As always balance is hard - especially when we come to deeply ingrained thinking habits and styles. For the introvert, reasoning on how the different parts of their brain can best interact with the outside world is probably the best focus initially.
But speaking from the other side I can tell you - it's fun out here
Regards,
Milamber