Bitchcuntfromhell wrote:….
I will try the clenching of the jaw when I get that "AAGGGHHHHH" jolt.
Hmmmm? Let me check to see if you understand what I was trying to say back in my last Post. In regards to your Jaw Muscles Clenching, well, THAT is the First Sign of an Impending Adrenaline Rush. What You Do with That is you simply wait and watch for whenever your Jaw Muscles Clench, and THEN you simply tell yourself “Whoa Girl!”… in my case it is “Whoa Boy!”… oh, maybe the word ‘whoa’ is a Generational Thing… an Old Person Thing… you see, ‘whoa’ was what they used to say to Horses to make them stop… well, People with horses today STILL say “whoa” to their horse to make It stop, but perhaps it is true that not that many people know that much about horses nowadays). But What If Something Else on your ‘person’… your ‘body’ twitches or ‘feels funny from the First Tingle of Adrenaline… that is, What if Something Else ‘triggers’ before your Jaw Muscles. Well, THAT is what you are to Watch For. You get Angry Often Enough, so just keep watching for Some Funny Feeling right before you “Go Off” on somebody. Whatever the Adrenaline Signal is for You, well, that is your Clue. For me it is my Jaw Muscles, but you might have a Different Experience. That is what ‘All the Books’ say, anyway….
Bitchcuntfromhell wrote:….
I have been reading an anger management book, but you are correct in that I have trouble reading at long intervals. It has been helpful, it just takes me a while to work trough because I have to read the same paragraph 3 or 4 times sometimes. I will persevere, I have to.
Yes, that is sufficient. Even during the days of my most intense struggle against Anger, I rarely spent more than 20 minutes at a time with such a book. Anger Management Books are pithy – dense with Information – and so they are Tiring. It is hard to sustain enough Energy to read them at Advantage. And about you having to read each paragraph several times to understand it, well, MOST people Do Not re-read Paragraphs AND they DON’T understand what they have just read. They read ANY Book as though it is a cheap romance novel, and just go through it, lucky to get whatever they get from it, but often in addition to Missing A Lot, well, they probably Get the Wrong Impression on some of the material and what they Remember is simply Not what the book said. So, yes, even myself, and I have no diagnosed Attention Deficit Hyper-Activity problem, even I quite often Re-Read paragraphs… I even go back if I think I didn’t quite get a sentence right….
Anyway, you are Obviously Serious about taking on your Anger. Just remember not to Slack Off. Often Angry People will have some initial Success and not get Angry for a few weeks or even a few months, but this may simply be because Things Got Better, Easier and Less Stressful for a While, and so therefore they think that they No Longer Have a Problem and they Discontinue Working on their Anger Problem … and Then they Flip Out again. So remember to Keep Going and DON’T let a few Early Successes or a few Smooth Patches (thank God for ‘Smooth Patches’… they certainly are Few and Far Between, aren’t they?)
So Keep writing and I will keep thinking for anything that might help you…
I had another tough day yesterday. I just took another "mommy minute". I locked my self in the laundry room and did some yoga breathing. It didn't make it all better, but it helped a great deal in the moment.[/quote]