Sunnysideup33 wrote: I wish it was cut and dry unfortunately I just am in the position where I can’t leave without him
This type of problem has a lot of variables, but ultimately this doesn’t change your options. You have very limited options and all of your options suck.
In other words, while it can be difficult to mull over all sorts of variables, e.g. his parents, the surgery, the pregnancy, his job, the relationship, etc. this does nothing to expand the range of solutions. You either stay or you go.
That’s it. You have two crappy options. You stay or you go. Which crappy option is the least crappy? Take that option.
Now, you have stated the crappy option of leaving is off the table. This means you have chosen option A over option B. It is not the option I would take, but you have your reasons. There is no 3rd option.
This reminds me of a friend of mine and the crappy options he had after finding out he had cancer. He had tons of variables to consider, but he could only choose between no treatment, surgery, or radiation. It sucked, because it was a lose, lose, lose situation. There were no good options. All he could do was pick the least crappy.
Anyway, it sucks when you have to pick your poison.