I'll start by saying I messed up by feeling needy last week.
My girlfriend of 6 months and friend of 7 years is ignoring me. We hung out together 2 weeks ago and it was great. She was super lovey dovey, couldn't keep her eyes off me and just genuinely enjoyed my company (she ALWAYS does when we spend time together. That I know is the truth)
She ended up going on a trip the following weekend and I left her alone via text or phone so she could have fun. She came back Sunday and texted me. I responded and never heard back from her. The next day she texted, I responded didn't hear from her for hours. I ended up texting saying something about throwing her phone into the ocean the second she hits send and to get back with me when she feels like talking.
She called the next night while I was asleep and left a very sweet voicemail. I texted the next morning saying thank you for the voicemail and asked when she was free to get together again. Didn't hear back all day and I texted back late that night that "I don't know what else to do here. I text you and get nothing back. I'm at a loss for words here. I'm hurt by this lack of communication." ( This is where I know I messed up.)
She texted back a long reply about how annoyed she is and that juggling between school, work, and attempting to have a social life has been stressful lately. Then she mentioned she forgot to reply when she was free and added "you're hurt by the lack of communication???" Between all the social events she's had to attend every weekend since oct. It's been alot. Then she sarcastically asked if she needs to stop doing all these things just to hang out with me.
I replied shortly after acting completely beta (I've never acted this way with women I don't know what was wrong with me. ) I apologized and said I've been working 28 days straight and just wanted to talk with her.
A few days later I went on a trip to clear my head and attempt to recenter myself out in nature. I texted her that morning. Explaining everything and apologizing again. And told her to call me when she wants to reach out.
2 more days later I don't hear from her. I drank a little much and texted AGAIN. I told her that the silence from her is telling me shes over it. If she wants to work things out let me know, otherwise I'll respect and honor her decision even if it's continued silence.
She texted back almost immediately after and said she's not over it she's just had a bad and busy week and if it's okay if she call me. I said sure
She called and was telling me about how some of the people that frequent her bar have passed away and how one of them is sick, but won't go to the doctor. Then she started talking about me "freaking out" I asked her if she just wanted space. She said she wants attention even if she doesn't respond. We only talked for 10 minutes and she seemed to be rushing to get off the phone. The whole conversation seemed awkward and she seemed off. It's been 3 days silence again.
She's always told me before that if someone goes distant she'll think they don't care anymore. That's where I'm looking for advice. I don't know if she's honestly just stressed and busy and bottling everything up. Or if she's lost interest because of my actions.
Do I keep sending her texts once in a while and be upbeat and probably not get responses back? Or do I just go distant and mirror her actions? It took a few days, but I'm already prepared not to ever hear back if I go distant. I also don't want to lose her either. Quite the conundrum. Any help from an outside source looking in would be so helpful to making me feel better about this situation.
Also for anybody saying we text too much, we both work incredible amounts of overtime on opposite schedules so texting is the easiest form of staying in touch for us. I prefer calls myself but it's hard with our schedules.
Thank you to anyone who responds. I truly appreciate it.
*I posted this somehwere else and didn't get a response. I ended up texting her last night asking for clarification on what was going on between us and didn't get a response. I then told her the silence is hurting my heart and wished her the best*