Inability to do certain sort of work

**Posts:** 13 · by **Riddles** » Fri Dec 26, 2014 11:45 am

Hello everyone,

This has probably been asked a quite a few times here already. I hope to at least approach the issue from different angle.

I have substantial difficulty doing work at my job. Whenever I am left to myself, and there is noone to oversee or cooperate with me on the work at hand, I will do most anything BUT the work. It feels as though all energy has been drained out of me when I face work given to me, no matter the time of day, mood or health I am in. My whole system protests against the thing, regardless of what sort of a job it is, physical or brainwork, difficult or trivial. It also happens if I have to work with a partner that has little enthusiasm for the work. I have no such problem when I have an inthusiastic partner or someone to watch over my progress even if this person is not very helpful. When I am on my own, however, I have all the energy and desire to do anything EXCEPT my task. This has been going on for years, and I guess it had begun sometime during school, although my memory of it is vague, could be earlier. I never did my homework at home. I am 24 now and it gets more serious by the day as I fail to produce results at work or do assignments given to me by my therapist and such.

I can type loads about this thing of mine but I would rather you ask me questions if something is unclear or missing. I look forward to to your replies, and thank you in advance.

**Posts:** 954 · by **Beloved** » Fri Dec 26, 2014 4:38 pm

You are afraid of being used by others.

**Posts:** 13 · by **Riddles** » Fri Dec 26, 2014 6:17 pm

Congradulations on the 777th post, Beloved!

It makes sense, but could you elaborate?

**Posts:** 135 · by **Eerily Remains** » Sat Dec 27, 2014 8:51 pm

Do you manage to do housework, etc.?

**Posts:** 13 · by **Riddles** » Sat Dec 27, 2014 10:39 pm

I struggle with housework, I do it when I cannot stand the mess anymore.

**Posts:** 954 · by **Beloved** » Sun Dec 28, 2014 1:43 am

Riddles wrote:Congradulations on the 777th post, Beloved!

It makes sense, but could you elaborate?

Thanks.

He thinks that while he is working, others are goofing off or at some party somewhere that he isn't invited to.

I worked with a guy like that, we were both working on a circuit, I got called to the phone and the second I did, he stopped and started reading a newspaper.

In another case, person A was supposed to work all night with person B. B was a drunk and disappeared so, of course, A didn't do anything.
The next day a supervisor died because of the confusion resulting from the work that was not done that night.

**Posts:** 135 · by **Eerily Remains** » Sun Dec 28, 2014 4:03 am

Beloved, what does the fear of being used have to do with housework and studying at home?

Riddles, just a quick thought; when others are around, you need not think about what you're doing to the same degree as when alone. It takes a lot of energy to think and over-thinking is a common source of stress.

**Posts:** 13 · by **Riddles** » Sun Dec 28, 2014 12:05 pm

I think earlier in my life, fear of being used was present to a degree. Yet I think it is not strong enough to give me this much trouble anymore. As for overthinking, I have noticed that I have an easier time doing things when I distract myself with things like music or audiobooks. But these distractions only help so much. After a while my opposing to the work overpowers them to the point that they start irritating me. Without a clue as to what I can do in such cases, I feel completely powerless.

A curious thing is that when I can involve someone with my work, I have a blast. That is untill they start showing signs of boredom or lack of interest.

**Posts:** 13 · by **Riddles** » Sun Dec 28, 2014 12:24 pm

The site will not let me edit the prevoius message, so I am double-posting.

(To continue the previous message) I think it originated in my childhood, my mother would never do anything together with me. She would never accept help doing chores, nor help me. I could never persuade her to play any kind of game with me, with a few very rare exceptions. Even though she is sort of caring and loving otherwise, I cannot help hating her a bit for that. I never had a father, but I never really cared. I just missed someone to spend time with me.

**Posts:** 135 · by **Eerily Remains** » Sun Dec 28, 2014 5:36 pm

Do you have many friends?

**Posts:** 13 · by **Riddles** » Sun Dec 28, 2014 5:55 pm

I communicate with many people, but I live in a small town, and do not fancy local occupations. People of my age either leave the town to study in nearby cities or work most of their time and spend free time partying drunk. There is an amateur football team, but people playing there are old time friends, some of whom I rather dislike. I am sure that if I moved to the city I would find someone to share interests. I had lived in the city for a while with my mother, but we had to move back to this old place for lack of money.

**Posts:** 634 · by **Bodhidharma** » Mon Dec 29, 2014 1:38 am

Edited by admin: Ad hominem remarks

**Posts:** 13 · by **Riddles** » Mon Dec 29, 2014 10:41 am

Bodhidharma wrote:Maybe its because you don't care about the work. Can't blame you probably have a boring job and come across boring and whining a lot. I suspect you are a 5 year old in a 50 year old body no kids, no wife just the job which you can't be bothered doing. I suspect you hit the drink after work which you told yourself you would give 35 years ago but after that traffic accident you have never been the same. On Sundays you go to church but your empty life you only hear the echos off the preacher bouncing off the walls of the mind inside. You go home and open a meal for one after it has been nuked in the microwave and can no longer tell if was chicken or beef but you eat it anyway. The TV flickers at some random news channel you give a thought to the starving Africans and think "my life is better than that"

You cry at night and masturbate into curtain drapes but then there is hope you go on ebay and buy a little something nice perhaps a cute dress and lipstick....if only things where different.

No offense but what a load of waffle. Why would you even bother to type that?

**Posts:** 634 · by **Bodhidharma** » Mon Dec 29, 2014 10:48 am

The same reason you typed your waffle.

Want an answer to your job problem....suck it up princess or man up.

**Posts:** 13 · by **Riddles** » Mon Dec 29, 2014 10:56 am

And 'man up' means ... ?

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