Lying boss

**Posts:** 17 · by **sunshinewhisper** » Fri Jun 06, 2014 3:38 am

My boss lied to me and I'm tempted to call him out. Without my prompting he asked me to attend a meeting at a client's office. When later I asked about a meeting set up with the same client via video that I saw in his calendar, he denied it and insisted the meeting in person was still scheduled to take place. Hours later he walked over to my desk to tell me he had canceled the in-person meeting. An hour later he was discussing the video meeting in my presence with a colleague. 20 minutes later he asked if I was ok.

This is not the first time I've been lied to by this manager and I keep silent each time. I feel hurt by the lies. Should I call him out and risk a backlash?

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Fri Jun 06, 2014 1:10 pm

Do you think calling him out on it will change his behavior? Probably not. So what will it do? Make you feel good for two minutes and make your boss feel how....?

Everyone has a boss...well most everyone...and every boss has flaws. Calling a boss out on their flaws, regardless of what they are, is usually not considered a very good strategy. A better strategy is to adjust how you interact, accept your boss will sometimes be lying. Whether this means you have to take a different approach when managing your own calendar or clients or whatever goals/objectives you have or it simply means minimizing contact/interactions, IMO adjusting is a better long term strategy than confrontation that will not resolve anything.

**Posts:** 1 · by **ashleygull** » Wed Dec 31, 2014 6:02 am

Unlike my other posts, there isn't much info i can give to you guys other than the ones above :/

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**Posts:** 170 · by **your.transformations** » Tue Jan 20, 2015 1:23 pm

You would just be asking for trouble, calling out your boss.... Its just plain stupid in my opinion. It will get you nowhere and only put you in worse position.

Feeling hurt by lies in job environment it just.... i would call it unprofessional.

**Posts:** 954 · by **Beloved** » Tue Jan 20, 2015 5:27 pm

You could say "My instincts tell me to ask you to put your statements in writing."
Or go to his boss with documented lies and dates.
Or tape him (wear a wire) if one-party-taping is legal in your area.
Try to find out if he lies to others.

What does he gain by lying? Everyone lies all the time so the DSM distinguishes "lying for material gain."

If he says "I have no idea why you don't trust me" I have at least one answer for that.

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