Compartmentalisation!

Hello Louise: I am so glad that you started this topic. I would very much like to know more about how to compartmentalize as well. Warmest regards, Peanut

Hi Louise,

I am really glad that you started this as well!
There is a post further down which you may have read about right and left brains. Mark gave some examples of how to stop 'swamping'.
I have also looked into NLP which is very useful as well. There is a technique called 3D Mind by Tom Vizzini (you probably know about this). I have found this personally quite useful because it gets you to look at the driver state behind your actual state, and then you add different things to the driver state which then changes your actual state. Tjhis can stop you from allowing the emotion created by one state to affect other states.
I can certainly give you info on this if you want, but I guess techniques are very unique to each individual so this might not work for you.
I have also found the ol' cognitive behavioural models' good, so when you say, I failed an exam, therefore I am fat, boring and ugly....you can say, well I failed an exam and I feel bad about that, but I am pleased with x y and Z areas of my life....this will then hopefully give you some endorphins quick!!!
But yes, it would be great to learn how to do this better...I have struggled really badly with this problem, in relation to an eating disorder as well, and I am finding it really hard to do, as it takes up so much energy. I have also tried another technique which is modelling my partner's behaviour...I think these states can be learnt...

On a slightly different (sorry a bit tangential!) I am still not convinced that woman are biologically better at multi tasking than men...I still believe there is an environmental element here, that it is expected of women. I know that I am a terrible multi tasker, really really bad....yet in my job, I get put (subtly and without a change of job description) into secretarial roles somehow which expect me to be good at this....It is quite funny because I end up forgetting things, forgetting dates, admin deadlines etc.....and then I can turn to my boss and say, well there is nothing in my job descriptionn that requires PA/sec work... I think this can be expected of women a lot. I can only do one thing at a time! (which makes the prospect of having babies rather difficult!!).
Anyway, apologies that this has turned into a ramble. have to get back to my ONE TASK that I am doing at the moment!
Best wishes
YOG

Hi everyone,

Here I am trying to rearrange my office, files and folders, books, papers, etc. etc. which overflows into other areas of my home and now I need to compartmentalise my brain and my emotions, too! Great topic!

My dad used to wonder why my mom and I would worry about stuff. He said he simply didn't worry. He couldn't understand why anyone would. He was a very intelligent, intellectual type of person, who worked as an engineer designing pulp mills. He was creative and capable in many areas, not high strung in any way, worked under pressure many times but never came home wringing his hands.

I'm beginning to understand, maybe not how he did it, but how I can do it. I have seen a huge change in me in the last few years since I started hypnotherapy;I use it a lot for my own problems.

I have learned a deeper form of relaxation, of letting go, and letting whatever it is that's bothering me or needs to be addressed find its own place in my universe. I am a very visual person and have always visualised my brain as being filled with compartments. I use self-hypnosis to further that idea.

One tape I have used very often is permenantly imbedded in my brain, I think, so I have an image of a roomful of dials and levers and whatnot to address multi issues. But, beyond just the image of the room, is the feeling of going to a place where I start a journey to this room, approaching the house that the room is in. Even just to mention it now, I feel a peaceful feeling enveloping me at the thought of drawing closer and closer to this haven where all will be sorted out. Its as if I have trained my mind to break down whatever is happening in life into small compartments which I can then calmly access at will. Or just 'file' stuff into and move on. Either way I have the feeling that access is there anytime I want so I don't have to burden myself with remembering everything all the time.

Now this script I have used, and others similar, is to address health issues. But mental and emotional health are big issues, too, and a part of our general well-being. I have been very focussed on this because I no longer have one of my major organs which was removed after years of having ulcerative colitis. Then also, after years of fighting depression, I was diagnosed as a bipolar. I have been very motivated to find a way to 'handle' life that was not distructive to my body. I simply had to find a way to keep things small (and realistic) and not let them get away from me where they would do further damage to my physical or mental well-being.

I think trying to find new skills, like a new filing system, to help us compartmentalise is like trying to use will power to lose weight or stop smoking. I believe we need to go into our subconscious mind to learn how we work in there, and why we react the way we do, and then to work on changing that way of thinking. The more times we relax through hypnosis or meditation the more ability to utilise those skills (relaxation, calmness, trust in our inate abilities, etc.) we carry over into our daily life. The more we do that, the more our subconscious mind, our inner wisdom, is there to access and direct us. That pulls us into that 'wisdom' area of ourselves and out of the hustle of life around us. Some people call it prayer. Or trusting in God - which does not mean you abdicate your responsibility - to me its all the same, what ever you call it.

All I know is it has worked, in tremendous ways for me. I jump from role-to-role-to-role in my daily life. Now I don't lose track of the person that I am but rather see myself as a part of the bigger picture, fitting an aspect of me in, where ever I want or need to, without losing sight of the fact that I have needs to look after, too. I am pleased, rather than frustrated by the many parts of me that can step in, and fill a role without it altering the real me in anyway. Instead I grow in strength as I do this and I see it as a moment to refresh myself. And can centre myself, either naturally or with self-hypnosis, as I need. My chakra script is great for this.

Well, I didn't mean to go on at such length. Hope something I've said has made sense. Look forward to more comments.

Peace and calmness to us all,

Sylvia