Good Evening everybody!
One of the most intriguing things I've asked myself in my life is how spontaneity comes, what the scientific background to this "charisma" is. Maybe there's no wonder if I ask about this since most of my studies have been done in order to fight one of my greatest defects: being unspontaneous.
I started worrying myself about this when I recognized that for too many years I had been spending time on chats and forums and (about 1-2 years ago) started feeling the need of becoming more socially active.
It has been very irritating for me throughout my life that things "come to my mind" only days or even weeks and months after, while I think "what could I have said at that moment to do better?" or in the extreme cases I even tell myself "why are the others so quick, etc." and so on.
I once thought that I think too much and thereby am a bit too complex when I talk and therefore sometimes don't express myself in a very communicative way (people therefore call me a "new age philosopher"), but when I try to "talk without thinking" I either talk nonsense or I'm totally blocked. Since I was too much online I maybe have been used to write half sentence, think, erase mistakes, re-write more times before formulating the whole sentence.
I've not found lots of material regarding this question, so I finally decided to ask the experts on what could improve my spontaneity and my "ars loquendi"... maybe in a more scientific way. But any kind of advice is welcome!
Thanks