Hello all. I dont know if this applies just to anger management issues. In fact, it's a bit of a mixture but anger is the final outcome so I might as well post it here.
The problem about me is: I get pissed off easily. This can be traced back to high school. I'm the quiet type of person who's friendly with people and doesnt go around messing with others. I dont even like to joke or make fun of people. But of course, there has to be some of those guys who just love to fxxx with you, be it verbal or making a nuisance out of nothing. It could just be a simple joke. But I already feel like I'm about to burst. It's been the same all these years. When i get mad at someone or something, I wouldnt retaliate or do anything in revenge. I have very good control but deep down inside my heart, I feel so terrible and painful and I can basically think about this incident the rest of the day.
Now I'm a medical student. Same stuff happens. There's all these mentors who like to act like a jerk and criticize every single thing that I do. Well, it's not just me who's suffering. But there are better teachers out there who are kind and is willing to give you enough space even if you did something wrong. What the heck is this 'tough love' sh** ? I'm basically very very nervous every time I'm doing clinical stuff. I feel like the same cycle repeats. I'll be thinking like: oh god. He's gonna find some mistakes in me again. And the more I think about it, the more I get nervous, and eventually I will do something wrong again. Why do people really think putting others in the deep end actually works for every single person ? Sometimes, the criticism may get a bit overboard and soon I cant even tell if he's doing this for my own good or it's total faggotry already. As I've said earlier, I'm the type of person who can not cool down easily. Obviously Im enraged inside my heart, but I wouldnt say or do anything to the person. However, My facial expression clearly indicates I'm in a very bad and down mood. I can just spend the rest of the day thinking over and over again what the hell is wrong and why do I have to suffer from stuff like this ? Even sometimes, I'm only doing a routine checking of a patient and that guy said: Kid. are you even qualified ?' This seems like nothing right ? But it can downright piss me off already.
As of now, I dont even feel like this is my problem at all. Everyone has the right to feel angry right ? Angry at the fact that something out of the blue or not what you wanted just comes flying at you. What can I do to improve my emotional skills ? These little bits of issues can combine to become depression