Thanks for the responses. It was a relief just to write the problem down. I contacted a hynoptherapist today, who helped my friend quit smoking. Apparently this type of problem is not uncommon, but is not talked about. No wonder people end up feeling even worse, just for having a problem, let alone dealing with the problem itself! That's why this type of forum is so valuable. Anyway - am seeing the hypnotherpist next week and feeling a bit more positive, so cheers. Any other comments/ideas, keep them coming.
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