by Nigel H » Mon Oct 31, 2005 8:01 pm
I suggest you see someone to have the anger dealt with and that will allow you to view the relationship for what it is once more. Then you will be able to decide whether it is what you want, without the anger clouding the issue.
Anger is a negative emotion that builds up if it is not released. There are various ways to release it and how much it affects you how quickly will depend on how your personal thresholds are set and how flexible your nervous system is.
Some use meditation, which allows you to have a more flexible nervous system and this type of idea may not be for everyone, depending on your views on such stuff! Another way is with Time Line Therapy(TM) which has specific techniques to allow you to let go of negative emotions quickly and comfortably. Typically you would have Anger, Sadness, Fear, Hurt, Guilt dealt with in that order and then any other negative emotions, which may include resentment, anxiety, depression etc.
If you were to go back to the moment before you first felt Anger - ever - then by definition you have not felt it yet and so it vanishes, you are then brought back to 'now' along your time line and it releases the anger from all subsequent memories within that Gestalt [a set of memories linked by subject, such as Anger, Family, holidays .... whatever other subject/emotion].
Regards
Nig
In March of 2005 my boyfriend cheated on me and I caught him. I love him to death and he is the only person Ive ever pictured myself marrying and having children with. As much as I try to forget what happened or to get over it, I simply cannot. It effects my mood everyday. I went from a very happy and friendly person to a bitter and unaffactionate girlfriend. Every little fight we may have I blow it up and make it a big deal because all my past anger comes out again. I dont know if I should give up on our relationship or try to over come my anger.