Hello Everyone,
I need some suggestions on a situation not explainable in one word.
I know my girlfriend is in some sort of trouble or thought or in some kind of problem. But I dont know how do I get to know about it.
well, I was depressed for various reasons, from quite a longer time with respect to our relationship, I am not sure if 'depression' is the right word, but I dont see an other alternative which would cover negative part of the word. But this behaviour of mine I guess has made her feel that she should keep the sensitive matters apart from me which could make me and her sad.
But that is not something I would want from the one I love the most. Not to be selfish, but I want to be with her in her thoughts or pains which is making her sad. I try talking to her and ask her as to what happened, for which I get a well known reply, 'nothing'. But i am sure there is something which is hurting her.
I feel, i need to wait untill she wants to tell me, but afraid if that would make her lonely. Sometimes I feel let me show her i am strong and she will herself make up her mind...But I dont to make her the victim alone for that long.
Can anyone please suggest me as to how would I make her feel comfortable , assure her i will be with her, and make her feel I am strong and not letting her to be alone. Please let me know as to how could I tell her "i am here, dont worry"..sad that these direct words do not impact her as I guess hay have lost their value having told a lot of times, when she didn't feel them effective!
Please suggest.
Thanks
Prashanth
Suggesstion please..
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by Yellowcoaching » Wed Mar 19, 2008 4:04 pm
HI.
I think you have al;ready done most of the things I would suggest.
Let her know that you want her to feel loved and safe and that she can share her worries with you at any time and you will try your very best to be supportive and then let her come to you as and when she is ready.
Might be best to post this in relationships forum to get more responses.
I think you have al;ready done most of the things I would suggest.
Let her know that you want her to feel loved and safe and that she can share her worries with you at any time and you will try your very best to be supportive and then let her come to you as and when she is ready.
Might be best to post this in relationships forum to get more responses.
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by Craig M » Thu Dec 10, 2009 2:57 am
One though I have is for you to just be supportive of her, rather than having to "tell her" that you are supportive. Be strong, and be there for her when she talks to you, when she asks you a question, whatever is happening when you are together, be there as fully as you can.
I think this is the best offering we can make to another person. Not to expect anything back from them, but to just be there as fully as we can. Of course over time there has to be reciprocation, but we can't sit around waiting for them to thank us or to tell us what we want to hear. Support her unconditionally, and eventually the truth of your relationship will come out, for better or worse.
I think this is the best offering we can make to another person. Not to expect anything back from them, but to just be there as fully as we can. Of course over time there has to be reciprocation, but we can't sit around waiting for them to thank us or to tell us what we want to hear. Support her unconditionally, and eventually the truth of your relationship will come out, for better or worse.
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